FR: 9/19/2015

I went out last night with Flow and his girlfriend. Also, a pretty cute girl that I convinced to come to Ott with me (the DJ playing). I was excited to go out with them, thinking it would be cool to hang out as a group. What happened was not what I expected at all.

We rolled up to the venue to see the show we had tickets for, and the girl I brought had forgot her ID. Flow forgot his card or something and went back to his house to bang his girlfriend and miss the whole show. 

 We decided to walk back to her car to get it. I had been trying to escalate a lot physically, thinking that it was the right thing to do, but looking back, I think I pushed it too far and miscalibrated the approach. I should have cooled it down and just been talking to her. She seemed a bit hesitant to be there, like she wasn’t drinking at all and just seemed kind of awkward. I was a bit intoxicated.

I kept trying to escalate and get her to kiss me or stay, but she just ended up leaving to drive to Newton. It was kind of upsetting, but a lesson that I will really have to hammer in with this point. If I miscalibrate by pushing too hard physically,the girl will just bounce out. I have to more actively look for indicators of disinterest and calibrate.

After she left I approached a girl to the side by herself. I asked her who she was and where she was from. I got physical pretty quickly and asked her for an eskimo kiss. We made out for a little while with talking in between. It was fun, and I got her number afterward. There is no real point in calling though because she lives too far away. She ran off to find her friend and I approached another girl by herself.

She was a little chubby but had a cute face, so I was willing to see where it went. I talked to her about salad in a sexual way, and it was kind of on. Like she must have found food fairly appealing lol. I just went for the kiss and we also made out for a little bit, but she was telling me she was really attached so she couldn’t fuck me. I kept telling her it wasn’t cheating, and that made her stick around a bit longer, but it obviously was.

After that I got blown out by a seated girl, who just wanted to listen to the music.

I’m not sure if I did another set after this or went right to the front left area, where I saw the first girl I made out with again. I grabbed her back in and started to kiss her again. Then I pushed her to the dance floor and started dancing with her to the music, which was really good. I had wanted to see this DJ for years. She asked me if I was rolling because I was being kind of aggressive with her. We went outside together and hung out while she smoked. I was being really physical still and pushing her up against the wall. I tried to pull her from there but it wasn’t going well. I told her there was an afterparty and that she should come, but she refused to come because she wanted to hang out with her friend. I don’t understand how to get past this shit.

Like is it just resistance or not? How the fuck do I stay out of the logical frame when she is asking me logical questions about where to go? It’s definitely a difficult aspect that I need to improve on. The set basically stalled out after this because I couldn’t pull her away from her non-chalant friend and convince her to come with. 

Thoughts/SP:

1. Pull knowledge is what I need, someone pitch in if you have advice

2. Don't miscalibrate escalation or it kills attraction

3. A shitty beginning can turn into a really fun solo night. I think my solo skills are improving from getting ditched so much lol

4. I think I was being overly sexual on the dance floor as well, which killed the momentum I could have built for taking her home. I should be less sexual on the dance floor and save the sexual stuff for when we are back at someones house. 

FR: 9/10/2015

  Tonight was kind of a mess, but there were some good things, perhaps. I just feel off for some reason. I had to just charge through tonight, and maybe will have to charge through many more nights before I get good. But at least I took action, and I even stayed sober. That's not easy for me, but staying sober was accomplished.

The first set I did was a walking girl. It was a bit bizarre, we walked down the street and turned around twice together to walk by the same shit 3 times. I fucked with her about how I eat only raw food. She was unattractive so it was just a warm up type of deal anyway in my mind. 

Next I walked up to two metal girls outside the Toxic holocaust show. One was very sexy and I chatted her up about bullshit and was messing with her, but her tubby friend was mad for some reason. She ended up wanting to leave and pulling her inside. Despite the cute one saying I was funny.

Next my wing Flow came and we started doing shit together. I opened a 3 set and asked them all to say there names in a line. I told a cute one there that my name was Tyree at first, and then she kept saying she would’t believe anything I said after. I should have gone with it and said I’m a lier, but I think I fell into her frame a bit and asked her why. We lost the set. I was feeling like I was behaving in a needy way and have to cut that shit out. They could probably sense that I reacted and lost interest quickly, like when my wing came in the thing was blown. 

Then I went directly into a 3 set and asked one of the girls what her name was, her friends actually seemed impressed and told me that I was forward in a kind of good way and let me talk to her for a second. I said that I was shy and that I didn’t know if I could handle the one I went for and it kind of blew up there. I probably should have tried to isolate or engage the whole set in a way that was more confident. 

We walked into Naga and the first girl I talked to was there and reengaged me. I was off to hotter options with Flow so I left her there. We went to the entry area and found out it was 25 to get in. The ticket girl was cute. We talked with some kids in line for a second and I had a far too boring conversation with this blonde girl. I should take some initiative to stop talking about such boring shit and add something interesting to my interactions.

We walked outside and I opened a 4 set. I started talking to a decent blonde girl. I isolated her by sitting her next to her friends, but she kept sort of turning her head to me and I had to say shit to get her attention. I think that was putting me in a low value spot or something. I’m not sure how to get a girl to focus on me more than the friends in this type of scenario. Like maybe I could have been more physical. One thing I found was that being physical was really hard sober. I feel really awkward and stiff going for any physicality, maybe I can improve on this somehow. 

Flow and I began to walk back to his place for a sec so he could send an email. We saw a two set on the way back and one of the girls was a fucking stunner Greek girl. She said “wow” bitchily when I forgot her name at first, and then kind of ignored me. I ended up replying with something kind of mean and that gained some interest. Then I said another kind of mean thing, that she said was rude. I can’t remember the content really. I should have said just kidding at this point, but forgot to address it. She also seemed really bored of me and gave little to no eye contact. I feel like I need to grab attention more strongly somehow.

Later I went back out by myself since Flow was emailing. I approached a girl on the street who seemed cool but it stalled out, and she was not willing to continue walking with me. I need to get better at getting out of a logical head space when walking with the girls to pull and going into pull talk and having a chill conversation.

I got back to Naga and hopped inside. There was a cover but it was fine. I saw a cute asian girl who really seemed like she wanted to be approached. I walked up to her and said hi and asked her her name. She spoke to me for a bit, but later she said she had a boyfriend. I asked if he was bigger than me, and she laughed. She asked me where I was from. I think I stumbled a bit here or the conversation stalled out when I went into her frame. I gave her a logical answer and it just died sort of.

Later I opened a blonde girl on the dancefloor, by telling her that she looks like she knows how to party. She said that was one of the better lines she had heard. So it stalled out in like a minute or so. I don't know what happened, but I think I was too logial again. It was just brutal. Like I don't know how to stay in a playful vibe type chill mode some nights. I was just having a hard time being sober. I definitely rely on drugs as a crutch in some ways.

The rest of the time on the dancefloor was shit and I couldn't really do much. I was acting chodey but there were not enough sets for me to do so I went outside.

I saw a girl by herself sitting alone, so I opened her. She was smoking weed and came to the show by herself. She was kind of tall but cute. We walked in together. Some girls like this are frustrating to talk to, she seemed really dazed and didn't contribute anything. We walked back in the show together.

Nothing notable happened back there, until later when I went back outside. The girl who lets people into the 2nd deeper part of the venue came out, and I sat with her in the outside area for a bit and talked. I tried to pull her when she got up to catch her lift to get some food, but to no avail.

Later the tall girl walked out, still alone, and said I could come with her, so I thought I could potentially pull, but in retrospect I think she just wanted to smoke some weed that I potentially had. I didn't have any, so she called her friend while walking with me and then headed to their house near harvard square. So basically my pulling ability is shit and I need to look into that.

Thoughts/SP:

1. Get better at bantering to keep attraction and add something more interesting to my demeanor
2. Learn to grab attention in a more dominant way when next to a girl
3. Get pulling on point

A few reports

8/16/2015

                So I went out last night. I met up with some friends at the Whiskey Priest. It’s a cool little place around Downtown Boston. I got there around 1030ish and waited in line for like 5 minutesish to get in. At the very end of the line I opened a girl in front of me situationally, by asking her which friend of hers she was going to marry. This was situational because of something she told the bouncer. So we talked for a bit, and we had a lot in common – both biology students that lived in Colorado. I asked her why she came to Boston and she said it was to live with her boyfriend. So there was no real way for this to go further, he was right there, so I let it go and told her to have a good night.

                I then went to meet my friends who were at the upstairs area. I walked to the back of the bar and asked a girl if she knew where the upstairs area was. She pointed up at the stars and then sort of stood there waiting and looking at me after leading me to a spot where I could see the stairs. I should have pursued the further. I think I could have started escalating or something like “well now that I found you I can stay down here” etc. That was a mistake and I shouldn’t have just walked away. I ejected early… which was kind of a theme for this night. It’s something I’ve committed to working on.

Regardless of this, I got upstairs quickly by bribing the door guy with a tenner and met up with my friends. Upstairs, I saw a sexy blonde girl that I thought I recognized from somewhere. I opened and we started chatting. She was giving me the bambi eyes when all of the sudden I recognized that I matched with her on OKCupid before. So I started to escalate  physically a bit, by touching the area above her hip and shoulder. This went over well, I don’t think she even flinched. So I decided to go for the kiss. I asked her to give me an eskimo kiss (thanks Jeffy) and she did it cutely. Then I went in for the real kiss and got it. I gave her a couple then rolled back off to talking casually. I kept kissing her a few times during our somewhat boring conversation. Then I told her that we matched on OKC and she found it funny and couldn’t remember. Girls get so many matches on that fucking thing. Then I ejected early like a big pussy. I thought my friends were leaving but they were still there so I took her number and left. Then I texted her and she has been unresponsive. Fuck that I’m staying in set for uncomfortable amounts of time for the next while. That girl was damn hot though, maybe I can get her out still.

So I went back to my social circle and we chatted a bit more. I opened two girls next to us by claiming that one of my attractive male friends is an underwear model. This opened the set somewhat, but my girl in the set seemed a bit bipolar. She told me she was a graphic designer and was interested at first, then didn’t believe me when I told her where I work and wanted to leave. Oh well. I didn’t really give a fuck that she blew me out.

Then I got blown out one more time, then I did another set at the bar that didn’t go anywhere. Pretty sub par overall. But I learned I have a premature ejectulation issue so I’m staying the fuck in sets for a while after I open.

8/18/2015

                I tinder closed this girl I had been texting with for a while like a gangster. I texted her at 1230 that we were growing apart, and she invited me over for tequila shots. We started hooking up about 15 minutes after meeting and had sex for a few hours. It was super hot and she was a cutie. Hopefully I can see her again sometime, but then again, my online gaming skills are getting supreme. See, I think that’s my ideal form of a pull. Sex within 15 minutes of a meet is just unbelievably gangster to me I think that’s the fastest I have ever pulled it off. I’m fucking stoked about it – it’s like seeing yourself doing feature film type shit that was never possible for the historical chode version of you. It feels amazing, I didn’t realize it until after but that was the kind of shit I always wanted to be able to accomplish in game and now I have.

8/19/2015

                I went out to a talk about how to start conversations with anyone being held in Boston. Afterward, we all walked to Harvard square to meet people. I opened two girls and dragged them into a conversation with myself and this friend I had gone out with before. It was going alright with the girl I was talking to, she was a bit cuter but didn’t seem interested. Her friend was slightly less attractive but she seemed extremely interested in me, like she couldn’t stop moving and playing with her hair and giggling. I got her number. Her friends swarmed around these girls and I didn’t leave. I stayed in set until they peaced out. This went alright.

                Later I opened another two set that started to go well. I stopped them walking and they said they went to Harvard Law, but were from Switzerland. Once I told them I had been there they opened up a bit, but were not very receptive seeming. My girl was very attractive but closed off, like her arms were wrapped and closed off to me for the first 20 minutes or so of the interaction. I think I should have tried to be a bit more challenging with her. She was losing interest, but I didn’t want to escalate physically because I hadn’t isolated her. I need to throw in some light pushes or something. I was too agreeable.

                Later I opened a 3 set of girls and no one came in, and I wasn’t about to leave, so I stood there chatting with them for a good 30 minutes. They were really interesting, and there was one I liked, but I didn’t pursue it with her. I regret not getting her number to be honest. It was a good exercise in staying the fuck in set though and I learned a lot about just talking and the “million dollar mouthpiece”.

Thoughts/SP:

1.       Stay the fuck in set. They fuck you or they fuck off is my new god damn slogan for the time being.

2.       Add more challenging stuff and experiment with it to see how that can evolve a set

3.       I have a new found appreciation for what I like to go for in game. Closing fast is gangster as fuck I think it’s extremely fun and satisfying when pulled off.

LR 6/26/15:

                I went out to a dance party in the center of Cambridge, MA. I have been living with two girls recently, G and M, which I have found is doing wonders for my game. I think it puts me in a mood where I can interact with women at all points in a non-reactive way. This is really key to doing well in the field. So one of them invited me to a dance party in Cambridge, and the other had a house party lined up for that night. The sheer amount of options is good as well, and you have higher value with girls on you.

                We go to the dance party, and not much happened honestly. I randomly danced with a fatty in the crowd, because it was hilarious. We then went to a burger place to get the beers there. I flirted with the cashier, and ended up talking to her for 5 minutes or so. I didn’t want more than practice, which I got. She sold me a massive beer and we drank for a bit. Then we headed to the party that night.

                We walked in and the place looked awesome. There were a bunch of people, and intricate paintings strewn about near sculptures and dark but colorful lighting.

                I was introduced to a girl by G in the hallway of the apartment after first entering. We will call her Israeli girl. It was a very cordial introduction. Soon afterward we had a quick discussion about the metal underwear suspended by chains swinging in the hallway. This sexualized her impression of me to her slightly. Then right after, I sort of floated away while one of my friends spoke with her. So this could be the first takeaway I did on Israeli girl, I think she subtly felt me leaving.

I separated from my friend group and started talking to people in the living room about one of the sculptures, it was a disgusting human colored slime mold caterpillar type thing with hairs coming out of it. I tried to talk to a two set of girls, but they were really absorbed with their phones. There was a tubby girl and a very cute one, they seemed to feel uneasy all night. Ike they stuck to their little group and didn’t adventure as far as I saw. So they didn’t really open and I sort of stumbled around, but felt unfazed, which enabled me to go try again. I should have tried to open with “I am just an average sized white Russian but I have values”.

 I walked into the living room and a girl popped out of a room, I opened somehow, I think I just introduced myself. She didn’t stop walking, she had a beer and a cig in hand, so I chose to follow her and keep a “it’s all part of the plan” frame. We went outside onto the balcony where she sat and was across from two seemingly gay kids being astounded by a phone conversation one of them was having. Phones are really gripping, people would often rather disappear into them then enjoy their immediate surroundings.

After this I opened a mixed two set to my left, a guy and a girl. The girl was kind of cute, but seemed like another one of those English majors with no direction. I told her, and she qualified herself to me by telling me she had an internship. She wasn’t that cute so I didn’t pursue it too hard aside from just having a regular conversation.

So then I walked inside, and saw my friends in the kitchen. I saw the Israeli girl that I had met in the hallway once again, talking with G. I asked where the beers were, and she offered to get me one. She got it for me and I said I love you, which was a spike. Then She even got me a bottle opener and opened it, which was cool. So the frame was set as her taking care of me, and that I am showing interest in her doing so. Cool. Then my friend group went to one of the rooms of the party, and I went with them, to see a different girl one of my friends knew. We meandered into that room, and I did a second natural takeaway, leaving Israeli girl.

In the room, we bullshitted about our lives and I tried to make a climbing date with the cute friend of G’s who we came to meet. She didn’t really agree, so I eased off a bit. We just went back to steady conversation. Hopefully I can set something up with her later she is pretty attractive. I heard “Trap Queen” by Feti Wap come on in the living room with the creepy human slime mold and the rat cage, oh yeah, there was a giant rat in a cage, and pulled one of my friends, M, to the living room to dance.

There were at least 15 people going HAM as one might say to Feti Waps unique auto-tuned and eyeless trap queen. Israeli girl was there and soon after we came close to each other, and I gave her a kiss since I felt the micro communications of her body. This was new for me… I really was calibrated to the very slight interactions of her hands with my body. The slightest pulls she made and pushes were clearly indicative of her attraction level in my mind, as well as with her conflicting interpretation of the attraction, she couldn’t commit to a pulling or pushing and was dong both based on my state fluctuations. This is good, I was setting the frame and she was reacting to me, hard. I kissed her and she said she had a boyfriend, and he was outside on the porch, so she can’t do this. Cool. I rolled off a bit. Takeaway number three. I went back and danced with people for longer.

Then I found a hammer on top of the rat cage, thank the lord that I found this. This turned out to be a tool of such creativity for people at the party it was astounding. I handed the hammer to G, with the clear expectation that she would smash the fuck out of the wall now. Oh yeah, did I not mention it was that kind of party? Yes, it was a come destroy my house kind of party. G asked if she could smash the wall, and one of the people living there just said “you gotta do, what you gotta do.” The whole house was filled with rad fucking people. G fucked up the wall pretty epicly, but didn’t do shit compared to Israeli girl. She came back I walked up and spiked her emotions with some kino, to get her sexually frustrated. She then said that she was extremely frustrated and that her situation was fucked with her boyfriend. Then I gave her the hammer. She went at the wall like a writer facing their block. It was awesome, The picture is posted below. This is possibly the most creative emotional spike I have ever come up with – some of my best pick up art. This destruction was caused by the force my sexuality exerted on Israeli girl. LMAO. At least partially. I also made it my snap chat story.

Then Israeli girl left again running away somewhere into the party. I kept dancing and hanging out with the new living room people that I was meeting. The friend of G’s from earlier came in and I tried to kino with her a bit. I grabbed her hand and interlaced our fingers, twirling it around on my left. It felt surprisingly natural and easy… I think I will have to integrate this into more sets in the future. She was the hostess so she quickly got distracted and ran away, but I still learned that from her a bit. I tried to talk to her about Europe since she wanted to go, but it was to no avail. I think I should have added more pushes or spikes with her that were negative. She was getting bored and I couldn’t hold her attention. I think I need to calibrate to this fact. Look at the role of the girl within the context of the environment, and calibrate my game to her social standing. Like if the girl is a host, you have to do more to keep her interested than regular game. More pushes are needed. It’s probably the same with hot girls who think they have the highest value in the environment.

I don’t remember exactly how this context arose, but I was standing on the balcony/porch with Israeli girl and next to her. I got her a lighter for her cigarette, and then smoked a bit of it with her. She let me play with her back a bit and escalate that way, which I was thinking was going to be okay, because she was next to me, so it was only us who would know this was going on. This goes back to RSD Julien’s concept of watching out for the Michael, that has helped me a lot to visualize when it’s okay to escalate and how to make it a judgment free place for women. If you don’t know that concept, you have to look up the Michael analogy. It has single handedly made me really aware of all judgment as well as female psyche in those situations with a simple analogy. I got it from PIMP which is a great product. So since it was hidden, she allowed me to escalate, and later mimicked that escalation with me, but that time she initiated.

Later I was in the kitchen with Israeli girl, and she said she was going to bed. I said good bye to her, but I did something really well calibrated that got be the lay. I think this was the defining reason why I fucked her. Before she left, I picked her up with the spin hug and kissed her in the air. Another massive attraction spike. Attraction is not a choice – doing this then doing a take away was probably just like tearing at her with a desire to depart from her boyfriend.

She left for a bit to “go to sleep” while I went to hang out with G and her boyfriend. I spoke to her boyfriend quite a bit, and he asked me what the biggest thing I ever climbed was. My ego was excited to spray so I vented it a bit, showing him my pictures of my ascents of El Cap and Half Dome. Israeli girl sort of creeped up next to me, and I sensed her there, but didn’t immediately turn to her like a chode, even though she was sort of playing with my side like I did with her earlier. Thanks Tyler Durden for illustrating this in the blueprint, it’s the shit. Don’t immediately give the girl all your attention like a chode, finish the conversation. Then It was just a logistical discussion from there onward.

I pulled her to my house/bed and went to the bathroom, to show her that it was a relaxed environment where she could leave at any point. Then I came back and her shirt was off, so I got the lay.

This was a really fucking fun way to break a three month dryspell, and the first time I have fucked a girl whose boyfriend was at the fucking venue. He hadn’t fucked her in 5 months apparently, and this was really adding to her frustration. So we broke each other’s dry spells.

Thoughts/Sticking Points:

-          Don’t immediately give the girl all your attention like a chode, finish the conversation.

-          Look at the role of the girl within the context of the environment, and calibrate my game to her social standing.

-          Grabbing, interlacing, and playing with the hand/s is the shit and is an easy and a cute/fun way to kino

-          Look out for Michael and ensure the judgment free environment, whether it’s emanating from you or the surroundings

-          Let natural spikes drive the interaction like attraction boosts. Us them as a tool to move things in the direction suitable for the situaton

FR: 5/17/2015

                So I went out tonight. Best night I’ve had in a while, because I have honestly been shit lately. Regardless, here it goes.

                I go to my buddies crib to pregame. We drink a fair amount, and head to the location of the boat. We went to a concert on a boat, and I was opening alone for the entire first part of the night. I open the first girl at a bar we stopped at before we even got on the boat. She was truly beautiful and I walked up to her because why the fuck not. I told her that she was cute and that I wanted to meet her. She told me her name. Tia I think. I talked to her for a sec and her friend began to chime in, and asked how old I was. I told her I was 23 and she said I was a baby. I responded kind of jokingly that she should be my mom and show me how to live my life. I was trying to challenge her and be flirty and joke sort of. I think I was too serious and wasn't smiling enough when I did this which caused her to feel uneasy/scared maybe. I’m not sure if she got it and it may have come off as trying hard. I need to relax with the friend I was trying to flirt, but it was the first set and those usually are shit anyway. So after this stupid banter the friend told me to ask Tia something. Tia said that being rude to her friend was not a good way to meet her. I tried to tell her that I was joking but she didn’t see it as funny. I fucked up here, and probably came off as really uncalibrated and try hard. Whatever, first set of the night. Also this really made the rest of the night easier because I tried to speak with a really sexy girl as the first approach and so the other girls weren't that intimidating as a result of this.

                Next thing I knew my friends and I were on the boat on the top floor. This was chill and we were just dancing and bullshitting. I opened the group next to us to see if there was any potential there. One of the girls mentioned Camp Bisco and I saw that as an in. I started talking to her and she was really receptive but she informed me that one of the guys in the group was her boyfriend and kept alluding to him. So I knew it wouldn't really go anywhere. We had a lot of commonalities about Colorado (they were from there) and that was entertaining. I eventually went back to my friends and danced a bit.

                Later I went to the bar downstairs . I got drinks and met a girl at the bar in the process. She was talking to a guy next to us as well and we chatted a bit and were joking around. Treating the entire venue as a set is much easier than just going for the girls because you don’t give a fuck about any single thing panning out and spread value around as opposed to giving any certain person your time and looking needy, or acting like you absolutely need it to work. I like this strategy and it makes you more congruent and real (as opposed to gamey). I double fisted my way back up to the deck and drained my drinks, mindlessly hanging with my friends for a little. I say mindlessly because we were relaxing and grooving and not working toward approaching. 

                Then I went down to the bathroom. On the way back to the deck, I spotted a really sexy blonde girl, and opened her. It was really on from the moment I got in and I was being physical with her in a way that I hadn’t been able to in a while. I felt like I was integrating the RSD stuff about being physical from the open and it was really making her more attracted. I could tell that she wanted me because she was giving good eye contact and expressing that she felt connected to me through some random commonalities we had. At one point when things were stalling out I wanted to reinitiate the flirtyness so I asked her if she had a boyfriend. When she said no I asked her if she would be my girlfriend. This is risky but it worked fucking perfectly and she giggled and was more receptive to me since she saw it was a joke. After enough pulling her into me I lifted her up with the spin hug and said “kiss me”. This is honestly new for me to do this. Recently I have been a bit intense about trying to get explicit consent in every larger step of a pull. Like a kiss, or sex. But that results in a lot of fuck ups. Perhaps too many for my comfort level. Now I know that sounds fucked but the thing is, you can command, and not initiate. If the girl agrees here, I think this is consent but without you explicitly asking. Asking looks fucking needy and you're asking for permission and the girl has to always say no as a rule to not look like a slut. So you command... But step off immediately if there is resistance. And in this case it went over well. The spin hug is fucking money and she really enjoyed it. She said hold on I need to put on lipstick and I put her back on the ground while she reached in her bag to put it on. I guess she wanted to mark me or something. This is consent she took ten seconds to do this so I would say that is a tacit agreement, kind of like putting on a condom. It's awkward but consent can come in the form of doing things that are non-sexual that can necessarily only lead to a sexual act sometimes. She put it on then kissed me on the cheek and I told her to give me a real kiss and we made out for a sec. It was fucking awesome to get a result. I have been in a dry spell recently for various reasons and just this kiss with a really beautiful girl was a rush. After this I put her down and tried to do some “what would you do if” stuff from PIMP by Julien. I think it came off as uncalibrated and she didn’t like it. (Note to self don’t do this until we are deep into comfort). She said she wanted to find her friends so I got her number and bounced. Honestly I should have worked this harder.

After this I did something like 5 approaches in a row on the boat and got blown out of all of them. I am having some trouble with group sets and getting the girl away from her friends.

I opened a girl and things were just stalling out as soon as I opened. I think I wasn't able to mess with my facial expressions and tonality in a way that hooked enough. It was boring and died...

I opened one girl in a train of girls and her friend basically was like NO and tried to body block her away from me. What the fuck was that? I was pissed but I let it go because dwelling will only make my night way worse and is something only chodes do.

           That was really fucked and I got a bit defeated so I went to chill with my friends a bit more after these kept exploding in my face. But also the sets were kind of running out we were on a boat.

                I opened a really cute Asian girl once we were off the boat who had just picked up the phone when I went to talk to her and she wandered away as soon as I got there. I should’ve yelled at her to get off it maybe. I should try that next time.

After much drunken shouting through Boston my friends and I made it to the Black Rose. My buddy dared me to go up and start dancing in the middle of 3 hotties on the dancefloor. This wasn’t a regular dance floor, they were pretty much the only people there for a performance of an Irish group with a fiddler and shit. I went and did it regardless and started joking with one of the girls. She was into it for a minute then informed me that her bf was in the bar and walked away. I think my direct method is saving me lots of time. As in, if they read my body language, tonality, and subcomms correctly they will know I don’t want to be friends and I am man to woman. They end it if it won’t work and that’s perfect so that I’m not standing there wasting 20 minutes on a useless set. The direct (lazer) eye contact is key and so is being direct with your intentions. You have to be full hearted and clearly into them. If you do this and are man to woman cold approach has a higher chance of working. They can also tell you are direct even if you are discussing random shit that has nothing to do with hitting on them. In this case I talked about how I missed being a farmer in Ireland and my dog that would herd sheep and cattle with me. 

Then I slipped into a set with next to a seated girl and talked with her for a bit. She was giving me really good eye contact and I was working her hard, but she was too fucking boring so I walked away to get back to my friends. I need to get better at getting the interesting qualities out of people.

They wanted to “invade” a group of girls at a table. This was perfect, my approaching all of these ladies probably reignited some desire to talk to random girls in them which they don’t normally have any more since they both have girlfriends. So they distracted the grenades (to be blunt) while I got free reign to talk to the fox of the group. She was extremely cute and it turns out she is a climber so we are going to climb a big cliff next Saturday in NH if all goes well. So I’m psyched and had a fun fucking night despite not going out for like 2 weeks from slacking. I guess my game is actually pretty decent. With momentum I could become so much better. I wish I had a regular wing to be honest I have to get one.

Thoughts/SP:

1.       The spin hug is money as fuck I need to do it ASAP in set

2.       The “do you have a boyfriend” line is really good for transitioning into flirty communication/testing to see if she can tell if I’m joking

3.       I am better while drunk/approach more – this is a crutch but fuck it helps

4.       Stupid commonalities ignite attraction

5.       Be physical ASAP

6.       Work sets harder, I shouldn’t have bailed

7.       I can really get good at this. The girl I made out with tonight was possibly one of the most gorgeous women that I have ever kissed. That is a huge confidence booster and I legitimately felt more attractive afterward. In a sense this is bad though because my state is dependent on responses when it shouldn’t be. Overall I am getting better at not caring if things blow up though and eliminating it from my conscious

8.       I truly think that meditating this morning helped my ability to react in the moment and act as if I was using my full repertoire of game tools in real time. I think I should do it for 20 minutes a day, or at least before I go out. 

Lay Report (Solid Week):

                I’ve been having a great week and I want to share this experience and think about why it went so well. I fucked two girls this week, and completed my longest pull ever (5 years).

                Redhead: My first redhead, she was probably about a 6/7. This was in Boston. Redhead hit me up on Tinder. I learned from the program that this is pretty much a sure sign that she wants me, and that all I have to do is not fuck it up. So I took Redhead out to a bar close to my house. I met her there and was a bit thrown off by her strange look, she had a haircut that was pretty awkward but it would do.

                We went outside after a short while to smoke and I made out with her fairly smoothly. After the bar closed we went back to my house and we went to my bed pretty much immediately. So the total time from when Redhead hit me up to the time I sealed the deal was about 3.5 hours. Once again, the good old interwebs are coming through for me.  Pretty much no testing from this girl, just stimulating conversation.

                Kairn: The 5 year pick up. She is a 7/7.5. This is my longest pull by far, the last longest one was about 3 months total I think. So I have learned a lot from this. I previously thought I had blown it completely.

2013:

                This is what happened. About two years ago Kairn and I made out on a roof and I pushed too hard for sex, so she got creeped out by me and left me awkwardly. I thought this was the end of it at this point. But now I know it wasn’t. This lead me to the revelation that it is far harder to fuck up a set than one may think. Your ability to pull is more dependent on your game at the time than on your history with the girl.

2015:

                So I’m back in Colorado now and my buddy who knows Kairn told me that I could probably bang her, and that she is single and has high standards now etc. I feel that my worth as a male has recently increased a lot to girls, because I finally found a job that has me constantly getting after my so called “higher purpose”. I can see that the attraction stuff I do hit harder in their eyes now, on occasion. But social circle and online game feels several levels easier than cold approach.

                I meet up with my friend and Kairn, at the house where I’m staying. We drink a bit and head out to the bars. Before we leave, I take her aside and apologize for being weird two years ago. This cleared the air in a sense between us. We hop from one bar to the next and meet up with friends calling me to chill before I go. In the second bar, my target is decides she wants to leave to meet up with some girlfriends. She promises to hang out with me later and wants to show me her sincerity by having me kiss my hand or something while our hands are interlaced. I told her that I want a real kiss and got a short make out at the bar booth. So that went smoothly, I then deescalated and continued a regular conversation until she left.

                We met up the next day to climb with our mutual friend. During the day I was getting massively tested Kairn and had to keep my wits about me to beat them. She called me an amateur at climbing and told me to leave her alone because she was tired etc. I ignored them or exaggerated and got to make out with her a bit more outside at the climbing area.

                Finally we met up later that night to go to a concert together with our mutual friend. It was on the whole time and we danced together all night. Lots more testing ensued, the classic “I’m not going to have sex with you” and ignoring me to talk to her girlfriends while I was trying to pull her to the house I was staying at. I passed the sex test with no we are just going to cuddle, and the ignoring me for her friends test by just walking away until she fell into my frame by coming up to me.

                After this we came to the house I was at and got a blowjob with minimal lmr but she wouldn’t fuck, so we drove back to her place, where I finally sealed the deal after five years. Also Kairn’s dad thought I was a homeless person so he hid all of their knives. Classic.

                I feel that it is actually far harder than it seems to fuck up a set beyond repair. This lowers the cost of mistakes in my mind and makes the game seem like less of a fucking acrobatic maneuver that needs to be executed flawlessly. There is no failure, only an incomplete set. (Just don’t be a fucking sociopath).

                The difference in skill required for online and social circle game as opposed to in person in the club game is astounding. My ability to pull is just on point in these easier scenarios and it makes me think investment in cold approach game might be a waste of time. I want to take a bootcamp or something to get better, or get a good wing. I don’t like being beaten by a challenge so I refuse to give up but I will tip the time I spend on seduction toward easier types of game in the future.

Thoughts / SP:

1.       The game is harder to lose than one may think

2.       Devoting a night to one girl and escalating/deescalating got the second lay in the bag

3.       Change my limiting beliefs about in person game to make something more suitable for when I approach. Also remember to switch up approach tactics and go into sets with goals

Lay Ups: 3 easy lay reports

     This is a compilation of 3 lays that I have had in recent months. I originally didn’t want to write a report on them because I felt they were too easy. As in, I didn’t really have to game… all I had to do was not fuck up. Lately I’ve wanted to post them, now that there are three of them, to identify how I am able to solidify my ability to move the interaction towards sex easily when I am given the chance. I think that had I not gamed for six years on and off, I would not be able to recognize the obvious next step in the process and apply my experience to gaming girls who initiate me.

     Girl A: I me this girl through friends back when I lived in Boulder. This was an odd case because she more or less ignored me all night. She talked to me for about a minute any time I tried to initiate a conversation and would run away. This led me to believe I had no chance and so I just drank more and was confused by the general events. Also I hit on her friend more, which I later found out made girl A think I was going after her friend.

     The night was coming to an end and we decided to end it as many nights do, getting Cosmo’s pizza. At Cosmo’s, I was eating pizza with my buddy when his girlfriend called him. She reported that girl A wanted me to be dropped off at her house. I was taken aback but I decided to go.

     I show up at Girl A’s house, she is on the couch. I walk in and my buddy's girlfriend leaves girl A 

and I alone. She walks me into her room. We lay in bed and talk for 30 minutes and make each other laugh, she cuddles me. Eventually I go for the kiss. I get it. She stops me and says “wait I thought we were just going to cuddle” … easy shit test. I responded “we are” and just started taking her clothes off. Etc.

Girl B: Girl B hit me up on OKC. I have been doing online game, and thanks to Jeffy’s “The Program”, it’s a fucking breeze.

     She hit me up with hi. I got her to come on a date with me. We met up and had food, it was fairly laid back, but I couldn’t understand her to well because her English was awful. Doesn’t fucking matter I pulled her back to my house like a badass. Didn’t even ask if she wanted to come I just paid, got up and left and she followed. We got to my crib and got in bed to watch a movie. No LMR. This took 2 hrs totalish.

Girl C: This girl initiated a conversation with me on tinder. Now Jeffy said to look out for this because it takes a fair amount of effort on the girls part, swiping and messaging. So I got her out to the bar, and was on my fucking A game. I went in for a make out at the bar but she said not here. Regardless, I knew this would make me more attractive because I went for it, so I wasn’t worried. I pulled her back to my house the same way, as in I assumed she was coming home with me. I knew she biked, so I asked her how big her bike was, indicating I would put it in my car, not asking whether or not she was coming. She said she was thinking she would leave it here. Meaning she already decided she was going to go home with me. When we got to my room, she sat on my bed. I sat next to her, and she attacked me. Alley oop. 

Thoughts:

1. Shit tests are getting easy… I just pass them with the least amount of effort or make them funny

2. Lead don’t ask for permission

3. Going in for the kiss is the right call if you feel you should, it only makes you more attractive