RSD Bootcamp with Jeffy Day One FR 9/6

Day one of my first RSD bootcamp featuring with Jeffy and Brad (assistant) at Lustre Pearl Denver

I just had night one of my first bootcamp (not sure if I’ll do another yet). That was fun. I watched Jeffy’s hotseat and then we went out afterward to a place called Lustre in Denver. There were six other bootcamp attendees. 

We exited the van that we rolled up in, and I decided to start taking action immediately. I started the night out by talking to some dude in line. This sort of helped me with getting into a social place quicker. I like doing some easy warm up sets actually because you start getting the social wheels turning. I spoke with him until I got into the venue, then I walked up to a couple sitting together outside near the entrance. I started joking with them and making them laugh. I can’t remember what I said exactly, but it was something like that the girl had nice tattoos. Also I joked about weed being stupid after they told me they were growers. I had them laughing which they appreciated. After a minute or two of this I headed inside. 

I talked to a two set of girls sitting near the wall. I can’t remember exactly how it went but I think I started self amusing in a way that wasn’t super useful / being socially over the line for a second. I made a joke that the fatter girl had cancer because she had all these freckles and tried to be chill about it but it was coming off sort of strangely. Then I was talking to the other girl and asking where she was from. I felt that she was giving a disappointed look to her friend or something so I said Jeffy’s line about I get the sense that you are patronizing. She then said she wasn’t and it was awkward. I think that I was just not free flowing yet and acting sort of strangely at this point. Maybe if I just tried to relax and have fun, but self amuse in a way that was more socially acceptable it would have worked out better.

After this I walked upstairs and started talking to some other dude on the second floor. I was trying to get myself more stoked to be there using the approach all strats that Jeffy said we should use. Then I walked to the bar where another bootcamp guy was, I think his name was Patrick. I spoke with him for a second before I opened a girl next to us. She was really hot and I opened her directly. She actually seemed to like the open, but she said that she was taken. Her bf was literally right there next to her. Then she said she had a friend who really liked single guys. She grabbed the friends hand and pulled her to me. I thought the friend was pretty cute and was talking to her for a minute or two. Then Patrick came into the set and started trying to help out, but it was kind of shitty because he didn’t ask me what the situation was and just started talking to that girl that got yanked to me and like left with her. I was a bit bummed about that because she was hot but I still learned that sometimes if you approach like a boss and the girl is taken she will hand you her friend. That’s pretty damn cool. Also, I learned that you need to ask your wing what the deal is when you head into set so that you don’t make the mistake that homie did.

Right after they left, a girl walked up and I pulled her in to approach. She wasn’t exactly my type, she was like a 5 or a 6, but I decided to bullshit with her for a while to get more momentum. She and I bonded over the fact that we are engineers. I think I should have used this as an opportunity to practice escalating physically. Brad told me later that the best guys all do that and I think more practice couldn’t hurt. The set was going well but I was getting bored after like 10 to 15 minutes and wanted to see if I could find a cuter girl so I bounced. 

I got into a conversation with Patrick and that girl I was speaking with earlier. He gave me a great intro and there was a super cute girl in set with them. I started speaking with her and escalating verbally. I was telling her that I loved her etc. and she was into it. She was saying that she wanted to marry me and that she loved me also or something. I remember thinking like ok this is actually going well and being confused by that. I should have taken this opportunity to be more physical with her somehow. In addition, I need to stop doing the back touch thing because all guys do that and that shit puts me in a lame category immediately when I do it. I kept trying to keep it going but she was walking back into an awkward spot between a chair and a table or something. This made for a shitty place to be speaking to one another and her eyes started darting around, looking to other stuff. Ultimately, she ran off saying she wanted to say hi to a friend and that she would be right back. This was some bullshit I was bummed because she was super hot and I missed another shot. I should have lead her 2 feet away from that awkward spot to another place and started escalating physically there. 

The next set I remember was one that happened right after I spoke with Jeffy for a second. I saw him walk in and he asked me about who was here for like 10 seconds, then he said what’s next. I looked around and saw a set to our left and ran in there and opened this girl that I didn’t think was very attractive, but it was still earlyish and I wanted to get more social momentum going. I was speaking with her for a while about random shit. She told me she was from Arizona and I told her about how I went to Seligman and caught ferrets there. I spoke with her about neuroscience and how I used to study motivation. I saw the instructors standing behind her in my field of view and watching me, taking notes. That was a bit distracting but it was cool to see them trying to watch and see my flaws. Soon Brad started making some hand signals but I didn’t know what he meant. He then told me while walking by to increase the physical escalation. I started getting closer on that girl and pulling her in and shit, doing the weird hand on the back thing again lol. I need to cut that shit out. The reason to cut it out is because that’s what everyone does. Instead, I need to stay squared up and look the girl in the eye. Escalate with words and with hand touching. I ejected after this because it was dying and I wasn’t attracted. Brad told me that the best guys escalate physically on all girls, to get in the flow of it and practice more. I’m going to start practicing that shit way more because that feels like my biggest flaw now. 

The next set that I did was a blonde girl that Brad pointed out. I walked up to her and opened her directly. She was loving it, but her boyfriend leaned over about 3 seconds later and said that they were together. He was like very very chill about it though and said that it was cool that I was approaching that way and that I could talk to her if I wanted, just not fuck her lol. She was also really pleased by it and seemed happy that she got the compliment. I ended up asking her if any of her friends were single that I could switch to, but she said they weren’t I ended up just wishing them a good night and heading out. This was interesting though because you are usually scared when approaching a girl with a boyfriend but chill people are really nice about it a lot of the time. 

The next set that I remember was a group of two girls sitting down. Normally, I don’t like approaching sitting girls but I was just feeling it so I went for it. I opened with the Jeffy classic “I’m Chinese and I love balls”. That shit is hilarious and the girls were laughing super hard. I ended up talking to the one I was less attracted to when this dude came in from the bootcamp and started talking to the hotter one. I didn’t care that much, but it was a little annoying. I can’t really get mad at these guys thought they are literally just starting and probably don’t have the awareness to care about their wings or understand what is happening calmly. I was speaking with the uglier girl for a few minutes, and she was laughing super hard. I started to get the feeling that she was really drunk so I was feeling a little bad about speaking with her and wondering if I should actually try to hook up, also I was unsure of if I was attracted to her in general. Brad signaled to me to go in for a neck kiss, so I went in after some hesitation to do it. I hovered for like way too long after kissing her neck. Physical escalation has to be more of a playful in and out type thing. They got up and left and were real wasted, that was kind of weird. 

After this I chatted with Brad for a second and he gave me a bit of advice. The conversation was lulling so I went to do another approach. I saw a super hot ginger girl and I went to talk to her. This is probably the cutest girl I talked to all night. I was really into her look and vibes. I think the logistics were just fucked though. We chatted about how we both like nature and she was just a happy and centered person in general which was really attractive to me. I was escalating with my words, but her friend was there the whole time and made this a bit more difficult. Her friend was sitting about 3 inches away from her in a sort of little spoon position. They were kind of sharing a chair. One thing that I did well was after I opened the ginger I liked, her friend turned her head toward me and I engaged her. I said “I was like, what’s up? I like your friend or something.” That actually bought me more time. I did a good job of engaging the friend instead of ignoring to show that I was chill and socially aware. This was good of me because I could have ignored it and looked unaware (something I have done in the past). Earlier during the Hotseat Jeffy was saying to address the friends briefly. I was trying to escalate more with the ginger that I liked, but it was kind of strange because the friend was listening in. I used Jeffy’s ridiculous line about how I wanted to do nasty shit to her, like get married and have kids and live our golden years together. Half way through that the friend turned her head in and said ok good night nice to meet you or something. I asked my girl if she wanted me to leave, and what she was that her friends ex boyfriend was here and that she was having to take care of her or something. I mean it felt like she didn’t want me to leave but the friend was just feeling sad and left out or something. So at this point what I probably should have done was just get the insta and bounce. I ended up just hanging around and talking for longer. Another kid from the bootcamp even came in and occupied my girls friend for a bit, but then they went to the bar. Some instructor yelled to go with them saying that we love water lol, so Tyler (bootcamp guy who approached my girls friend) and I went with, sort of confusedly trying to get back in the interaction / see if they were still receptive. This sort of ended with them going downstairs after a second. I’m not sure if there was really anything I could have done there. I guess sometimes pulling is just not a thing and you have to settle for the insta or digits or whatever. That’s what Brad told me after this set as well, which was useful feedback. 

I think after this Brad was like let’s go outside, so we went to the front outdoor area of Lustre. I went and opened a cute asian girl in the middle of a mixed set. She immediately told me that the guy to her right was her boyfriend but he wasn’t saying anything and I figured I’d stick around and chat for a second. She and her friends were trying to become clinical pharmacists girls so I made fun of them for hoping that the opioid crisis would never go away. This was fun and self amusing and I think they liked it. I was trying to err on the side of being more riskay as much as possible throughout the night, as we were instructed to do this anyway and it was making my night more fun. Brad came in and it was impressive to watch him work. He really took control of the set and was super grounded and funny. Like he brought the fun super well and it was really entertaining. It was pretty awesome to watch him because he is the best guy I’ve ever seen at this shit in person so far, Jeffy was concentrating on students so I didn’t really get to see him work. Brad even ended up pulling a super hot girl that night. 

Brad told me to get in set with Dane, and so I was talking to the other girl there. She was really hot. I tried to relate to her by asking about if she liked Yosemite, and I think that turned her off. Ultimately, it was just chodeversation. I need to fucking stop the chodeversation before attraction. She didn’t seem like someone who liked nature. This is a clear sign of non compatibility with me, but I think I should have tried some different approach honestly. This girl was fucking hot and I would have loved to hook up with her. I talked to Jeff about this later and he was like what does Brad do that you don’t? I didn’t reply, and he said Brad escalates physically. That shit is ridiculously correct. I was thinking yes, this is why I’m paying for this, please tell me more of my flaws. I saw Brad find some commonality with her pretty fast, and then get a high five from her. Then after she left from talking with me she went over to follow him. I could easily be doing that. I think high fiving is a really good way to start getting escalation and physicality. In addition, Brad’s demeanor was fucking bad ass. He just had this unflinching look about him as if he didn’t give a single fuck. It was incredibly unreactive. He actually left with this chick later. She was super hot to us, but he only likes asians so poor brad for having to fuck her lol. 

Brad told me to get in a set with a different asian than before, and use the her friend to get to the asian girl afterward. I hiked over to them and I opened the black girl with the “I’m Chinese and I love balls line”. The asian girl was pretty offended and said that it was racist. I don’t think that it was racist, just random and crazy, but still I should be more sensitive to shit like that in the future. At the very least it shows poor judgement and social awareness. I was really not giving a single fuck at that moment in an entranced in the moment kind of way. This can actually be bad if you act like a retard. There is a middle ground there between blindly thinking you are awesome and being present and empathetic. 

I went upstairs to look for some more girls but I couldn’t see anyone to approach and the herd was beginning to thin out overall. I was shoved in my head a tiny bit by the bad reaction that I got earlier atmittedly. I went back downstairs and saw a really cute girl. She was sitting at a table with 3 other women by her. I approached her directly and the conversation was going pretty well initially. She turned to face me and we talked about New York and stuff since she was from there. More chodeversation :’(. Her friend was turning 32 that night. I was trying to escalate physically but it felt awkward to do that with the friends standing right there. I think I need to develop more balls honestly. I don’t want to fucking hear nice to meet you ever again that shit is like hearing nails on a chalkboard.  As Jeffy said, what it really means is “you’re a bitch and I’ll never fuck you.” I think this would have been easier with a wing though, perhaps I should have brought one in with me. They may have just been tired already, they ended up leaving after a few minutes of this conversation. 

The night was dying and Jeffy said it’s the twilight hour. That means it’s the time to be slightly more aggressive and do more hand of god style opens. This is the kind of open that requires you to put your hand out and just look at the girl expectantly to come to you, but in a slightly stoned looking kind of way. I think this is pretty dope actually because I’m used to this stuff working in my favor from so much salsa dancing. I don’t think a girl has ever rejected dancing salsa with me when I do the hand of god open in that context. I got ignored a number of times with the hand of god approach, but it actually worked once also. 

I hand of godded a blonde girl inside. She grabbed my hand and I came up to her and started trying to be physical fairly quickly. She was deescalating that while telling me that she needed to find her friends. She had a sort of interested but also scared and confused kind of vibe, it was bizarre. I think she half wanted me but then I was too boring, maybe because she de-escalated and my verbal game was not intense enough for the moment. Perhaps I could have been more forward with my intention and commanding with tonality. Perhaps I didn’t re-escalate fast enough or something. I am not sure what I could have done better here. I think I’ll go with when it is the twilight hour, lead more aggressively and convey intent more than you did before.

The final girl I talked to was this girl that I saw at 2:30ish. Jeff pushed me at her and told me to approach with “where’s the thing?”. It actually kind of worked and she and I were vibing very well after we found out that we had the same favorite DJ. I was trying to escalate hard and fast there, like on the open and many times after the open. She was sort of laughing and pushing me off any time I tried and I got the feeling that something was going on there. I waited with her while she got tacos and then two guys came up to ask for her to order some more. After she got them she went back to the guys, and I asked her how they all knew each other. She said that she was dating one of the guys and that he was her kids dad. I wished her a good night and bounced after a hug. 

Thoughts / SP:

- Easy warm up sets can help get you into that social mind set 

- Try to self amuse in a way that is socially acceptable, at least in the beginning

- Ask your wing what’s up when you walk into their set

- Take the opportunities to be more physical

- Stop doing the back touch thing because all guys do that and that shit puts me in a lame category immediately when I do it

- Lead girls 2 feet away from an awkward spot  if they are in one to another place. Possibly with a dance move?

- Escalate physically on all girls, to get in the flow of it and practice more

- Physical escalation has to be more of a playful in and out type thing

- Engage the social group if there is a situation where they start examining you and shit

- Sometimes you should just get the insta and bounce

- I need to fucking stop the chodeversation before attraction.

- I think high fiving is a really good way to start getting escalation and physicality

- I don’t want to fucking hear nice to meet you ever again that shit is like hearing nails on a chalkboard

- Hand of god is dope

- When it is the twilight hour, lead more aggressively and convey intent more than you did before.

FR 8/30

I went out with a new wing named Leo in Denver. He’s super good at this stuff and it’s a joy to game with him. I made some mistakes that he didn’t really and I feel like I have a lot I can learn from him when it comes to not giving a fuck.

I rolled up to Viewhouse in Denver and Leo was there chilling outside waiting for me. We saw that the line was super long so we decided to check out some of the bars across the street instead. We realized that we needed some money to get inside these places so we walked up to the ATM. Leo started a conversation with two girls at the ATM. One was pretty and the other was kind of ugly and acting racist about the bouncer. I was still feeling sort of in my head at this time and not saying much, but I also felt like it was weird to be around such racist people. That’s a boundary of mine that I don’t want to have to break, I won’t sleep with a racist girl. Leo seemed to be having a blast bullshitting with them, and so it was good that he was getting a warm up at least. I wonder if I could have winged him here and hooked him up with the cuter girl, but I wasn’t attentive and thoughtful enough at this point in the night to actually work that out in the moment. We ended up ejecting and wandering for a second, before we headed back to see if we could get girls to get us into Viewhouse. We could only get in with girls here because there were separate guys and girls lines for some reason. 

We walked back across the street and Leo was not giving a single fuck and talking to lots of girls, asking them if they were going into Viewhouse to see if we could hitch a way into there. I was impressed with his balls but thought that the plan was probably not going to work (maybe this was a self fulfilling prophecy?). He started talking to two seated girls by crouching down and speaking with them while they sat and ate. I wasn’t sure if this was the best body language to take, but it seemed like things were pretty on with his girl (it was a two set) so I started talking to the other girl. I learned that she was in a sorority and asked her various things about it after making some jokes. Perhaps I was being too questioning and partially judgmental here, but then again I truly think sororities are pretty dumb and that probably came across. She seemed like she really wanted to leave, so she ended up grabbing the friend and pulling her to the pizza stand to find their other friends. I probably could have played that better if I was more warmed up and more riffing on my own things that I find interesting, that would have been more entertaining. 

After this, Leo talked to some girls and convinced them to try and walk us into the girls only line in Viewhouse. We tried and got rejected by the bouncer. Getting in was looking more hopeless. It would be cool to establish better relationships with the bouncers there so that we can avoid that in the future. We decided to check out the gin mill because that had no cover and Leo wasn’t interested in paying one. We walked in and it was looking pretty ratchet. There were two girls seated at a table and Leo walked up opening one of the girls. I went up to the other one and started chatting but it seemed kind of like it was a dying interaction. They were seated and looked sort of hot but flustered and bitchy. We could have probably done a better job of bringing the fun, or maybe we should have been icier. That set ended when Leo started saying bye to the girl he opened and walking off as if she had said no thank you to him or something. 

We continued walking around the bar when we saw two other cute girls. I can’t remember how we got into conversation with them but it seemed like they were about to bail on us when Leo told them that I was his boyfriend or something. This was interesting because a lot changed immediately and the girls were hooked and talking to us. I would never try this or use this as a strategy normally because it seems to me like the only reason you would lie like that is because you aren’t truly comfortable with yourself. That being said, it helped me get into a bit of a better mind set and I liked talking to that girl I was with a lot. We had a bunch in common and she was very hot. Saying you’re gay is an interesting strategy to use to get some momentum going to situations where things haven’t quite taken off yet in the night. The girls got pulled away by some guy shortly after this. Leo said that those guys were their boyfriends.

We went outside to see if we could make something happen. I think I opened the next group but I’m not sure. I was talking to a cute girl but she was totally silent and not responding. The only girl responding in this group was not a looker and I wasn’t interested sexually. Leo was talking to some girl behind her for a second but it looked like that died out and he got into the set with quiet girl, gross girl, and I. This was quickly becoming a waste of time for us and I was tired of being in that situation. After a minute or two I realized that this shit was a waste of time and went and pulled on Leo to leave, saying that we should find hotter girls. We rolled out after he got their instagrams or something. I did a good job of realizing that it was time to bounce here.

After this we went back to try to get into Viewhouse a bit more. It wasn’t working out. Leo even started chatting with some girls that tried to get us in via the girls line, but unfortunately the bouncer was not letting us in there. After a few times we realized that this was hopeless and decided to try Neon Baby, a new club. We hiked in there and headed upstairs. I saw a cute set of two girls sitting on the couch and told Leo we should approach them. He said he would support me so I opened the one on the left side. She was a super hot latina girl and I into her. She liked my direct approach and it hooked. Leo’s girl seemed like she liked him also. The logistics seemed okay on my end because she didn’t have anything to do tomorrow. We chatted for 20 minutes or so on either side of these girls. I was using a new technique called honest communication which is where you basically say whatever the truest thought that comes to your mind is with no filter. I really like that I think it helped with attraction a ton. Attraction just felt fluid and easy to get. 

I ended up escalating a lot physically with my girl and I felt like I should start testing for compliance. I told her let’s go get a drink but she said that she was already drunk enough and didn’t want to go. I feel like I should get better at leading because I hit road blocks at this step sometimes. Maybe if I was more aggressive this would be easier. Then I asked her if I could kiss her and she said no. She said that she hadn’t been with a man in two years. That’s pretty strange obviously but I thought I might be able to push through that. Which ended up being wrong. Perhaps I should have bailed here. That’s obviously a bad sign, but maybe I should have been more aggressive with my leading here also. 

After a bit more chatting, Leo got up to get a drink and I went to speak with him for a second. He informed me that his girl had a kid and a boyfriend,  and that she seemed super into her bf. The logistics got pretty bad for him here but he seemed heroically ready to wing for me. He is a fucking boss and I was glad that he was nice enough to act this way. It was truly an example of a guy putting their wing first and I was impressed. I was unsure about if I wanted the Latina girl though after I failed to get compliance and she disclosed that she was kind of wasted. 

We decided to go look for other girls in a connected bar. We walked in and Leo opened a girl on the dance floor. She was pretty cute and I started speaking with her friend. I was vibing with the friend while Leo was on his girl. I wasn’t’t sure if I liked the girl I was with but I wanted to wing for him. It started to end with the girl Leo was speaking to and the girl I was with and I were noticing. She was disconnecting from him a bit. Eventually, she grabbed the girl I was with and pulled her away. I was sort of ambivalent about this because I wasn’t sure if I was attracted to her anyway.

We pushed past the noisy and energetic dance floor and I opened an asian girl standing at the edge of the bar. She pulled out her phone and starting texting while I was talking to her. It was kind of lame and I didn’t like her look when I was up close. I ejected after 20 seconds or so because she was boring and unattractive. Leo and I walked back into Neon Baby. I saw a girl on the railing by the stairs. I had a sense that this girl on the railing’s boyfriend was the guy hovering next to her. Leo didn’t give a fuck and opened her anyway. I was impressed with how ruthless he is. I think that he was the boyfriend because the conversation ended pretty quick but Leo wasn’t shaken at all visibly.

We saw the girls that we had a 30 minute conversation with. Leo convinced them to go to Viewhouse with us. Maybe we could get in with them helping out? They were super cute. I thought it might be possible because it was around 1:30 at this time and the line might have been smaller. When we got there, Viewhouse was closed and not admitting anyone in. We took the girls to Tavern across the street. I was flirting with the cute Latina a bit on the way there but I felt that the logistics were probably fucked so it was just for funs. 

We got into Tavern and headed up the stairs. We had to wait a bit for the girls, but they eventually came up. When they went to the bathroom right after Leo and I decided to try to find new girls there. I think I got instant disinterest from some girl on the dance floor, and Leo started talking to someone. I did a reasonable job of not caring bout that rejection, I barely remember it now. His set seemed to be going okay so I chilled on the side for a second. I choded out a bit earlier at this venue admittedly when I walked right by some cute girls on the lower balcony. I missed that opportunity. 

I reconvened with Leo a little after and then I opened a set of some asian girls standing under the loud speaker. This set was pretty strange. I opened this girl that I found cute directly and Leo tried to wing me, but they were in a weird little corner and were hard to hear, speak to, and understand. I still talked to the girl I found cute for a little while, but she was not clearly into me and her friends were hovering right there awkwardly next to us. I tried to move the group to a place where we could hear each other but they were not trying to move. It was so annoying standing there that I was psyched to leave, especially with the shitty compliance (not moving). 

Leo and I reconvened next to the girls we had a long set with and spoke with them for another little while before they decided to bounce. The club was shutting down as it was 2AM and we had to leave at this point. We decided to try and do some outdoor sets. 

He opened a few walking girls but I didn’t really see anyone that I wanted, and those that I saw I wasn’t able to take action with. I was thinking that this is the time to be more assertive since it was late and people were ready for an emotional end to their night or whatever, but I wasn’t feeling super congruent with that and ended up not taking a lot of action. Leo and I decided to go get some pizza a few blocks away after things weren’t really panning out. 

We headed to the pizza place and Leo asked some cute girl in line something that I didn’t hear. She seemed to love his beard or something. We started talking to them and Leo managed to convince them to let us join them and cut the line to do so. That was pretty boss of him. I asked them how they all knew each other and two of the people turned out to be married. One of them was the girl Leo opened. The other girl that they were friends with was a really hot Latina and I sort of walked right up to her and started flirting with her. She asked how old I was and I told her I was 27. She said she was too old for me because she was 32 but I ignored that and kept talking. We started vibing and talking about random shit. I was using the new technique that I found out about earlier to just say random thoughts without any hesitation (honest communication), and again attraction came fast. She started digging me and we actually ended up doing a bit of salsa dancing in the pizza line. I thought that was pretty funny and she seemed more into me after that as I was able to tolerate the social pressure of people in line laughing at us and chanting at us to dance for the pizza. 

I think this was going really well but there was this guy hovering into the set the whole time and sort of getting her attention sometimes. I think it may have been her boyfriend but I was not sure. I failed to properly get her logistics and discern what I should be doing and make a plan here. This ended up costing me the opportunity to take this girl home because we split after the pizza line ended and she sat with her friends while I met up and talked with Leo again. In addition, I have been feeling bad about how I winged this set poorly. Maybe Leo wanted this girl and he opened the set. I failed to ask him who he wanted and what he was trying to do with that set. That was me being a shitty wing and I need to have the ability to look at the bigger picture and be better than that in the future. I’ll make sure to check in with my wing and see what they want to do with the set in the future.

Leo opened the final girl of the night. She was a cute blonde girl next to us. He was chatting with her and things ended up going pretty well. He asked if we could sit with her and she was into it. I sat next to her redheaded friend in a sweater. One of the first things I asked her was if she got that sweater from Bill Cosby. She said thanks, because now she knows that she should never wear that sweater again. I think starting with a funny douchey comment is pretty good actually as she seemed super interested. We had a bit of witty back and forth banter. This was kind of fun but I was unsure if I was into her and I was paranoid that she was fat under the sweater. I really didn’t want to take that risk because I have been catfished online so many times and I just don’t want that. This fear was sort of permeating my brain as I was speaking with her and discerning commonalities and logistics (which was a good instinct).

The logistics weren’t that bad, she had a wedding in Denver tomorrow. Unfortunately, my logistics were terrible as I had to get up in three hours to leave for a climbing trip. I didn’t have the desire to stick around any longer despite her being into me. I didn’t want to risk banging an ugly girl that I had nothing in common with. I told Leo that I wanted to bounce and asked him if he wanted to stay. He said he would roll with me and kindly gave me a ride home. In the car, he said we could have pulled those girls. Part of me regretted that we didn’t. Another part of me really didn’t want to take a risk with that redhead. In addition, I felt like I was a shitty wing again and that I could have tried to get Leo laid at least. But he chose to leave with me when he could have stayed. His girl was actually pretty cute honestly. One misconception that I had was that a guy sitting next to Leo was that girls boyfriend that he opened. This thought made it easier for me to want to bail. This was wrong. I need to remember to make decisions based on facts rather than assumptions and get logistics properly to wing properly. 

Thoughts / SP:

- I didn't drink at all and it was kind of awesome. I think that helped my emotional well being stay positive and fluid instead of crashing upon sobriety

- Make decisions based on facts, not assumptions as much as possible

- Have a bigger picture view as a wing to help your bro out as much as possible. The wing comes first.

- Starting with a funny douchey comment is pretty good sometimes

- Ask your wing what they want to do with the set

- Properly get logistics, and fast to not waste time

- Honest communication is fucking amazing and girls get mesmerized

- Take action even when not feeling congruent in the moment

- Relax in the face of it not working out, it’s just a time saver that gives you more time to find the girls that would work with you

- Become more assertive when leading to stop losing opportunities

- I’m getting better at leaving when it’s pointless to stay. Life is too short to waste. 

- Establish relationships with bouncers as much as possible

- Bringing the fun vs being an icy mofo with hot girls is an interesting paradox to explore more

Field Report - 8/29

This night was pretty wild. It was a Thursday night in Boulder, Colorado. 

Thomas and I arrive at Press Play after we drive up around 11 PM. We walk into the venue and I walk right up to smoking hot girl in a two set. I’m getting slightly better at killing my hesitation. I opened directly and then told her what my name was. She then said that I have the same name as her last name or something. Thomas was hovering around next to us. I need to make sure that we have established rules for winging with my wings in the future. He did a bunch of things that I would consider incorrect for a wing but he doesn’t know game. He’s sort of a natural. He’s really good at generating his own fun and that gets him attraction. 

She then ran away to be near some guy playing pool. Maybe if I was more commanding this would not have happened but who knows. The other girl was still there so I switched to her for a bit. This shit seems like it was kind of weak because I was unsure about if I was attracted to this girl. I have been trying to set a personal boundary of only hitting on girls I find attractive. As a result I was sort of half hitting on her and half just using her to get myself into a social mood. After we chatted for a few minutes with Thomas still hovering I tested for compliance by saying let’s get drinks. I moved us to the bar (got compliance) and then we just chatted instead of getting drinks. After a bit of this she said that she was going to go check in with her friends and that she was about to be right back. I ended up saying “OK see you later” and she let out a minor shriek. I think that this may have been her interpreting what I said as a rejection. Honestly, by this point I was still unsure of if I was attracted to her so I didn’t care and decided to move on.

I walked up to the next cute girl that I saw that was in a group of three. I opened direct and she immediately told me that she had a boyfriend. A weird thing happened after that though where she almost said I wish I didn’t have a boyfriend. She said that she loved my approach and that women need to be told stuff like that more often. It was super funny that it happened this way because Thomas had been asking me why opening direct works and what that means. He came into that set with her and I while she explained how awesome I was for doing that to Thomas so that shit was super funny and insightful. Ultimately, after some chatting we didn’t see any other good prospects in the bar, so we decided to bounce and check out the Pearl Street Pub.

We rolled into that motherfucker a short while later. To be honest, I saw a few attractive girls that I thought were very pretty. I missed a some opportunities and was feeling kind of lame about that. I have been using RSD Derek’s “champ over chump” idea to motivate myself and that was chump shit (the idea is that you ask yourself constantly is your current behavior that of a champ or a chump). I must have missed opportunities with 3 women because of choding out in those first few moments in the venue. We headed downstairs and Thomas challenged me to open a set of a man and a woman right next to me. He knew that I was working on getting better at opening mixed sets. In my mind it was obvious that they were together, but I just did that shit anyway because why the fuck not. I opened the girl and she looked perplexed and angry. The guy was actually pretty chill. I asked them if they were together and she said “obviously”. So I felt a spike from this, a smallish emotional spike of embarrassment. But I am super glad I did it because overall it wasn’t that bad. I was a bit affected but there is logically no reason for me to care about what any stranger thinks about me and that helped show me that I’ll be okay no matter what happens. 

After this we started walking up to the bar and I was about to approach a girl when Thomas beat me to the punch. The cunt finally got the balls to do an approach. I was part proud and part annoyed because that girl was hot. I ended up going upstairs where I saw a super cute girl who was kind of asian looking. This is exactly my type. I opened her directly, with her mixed set of friends hovering around. They were sort of standing there and I just ignored them because I was focused on the girl and squared up with her. We got into an interesting conversation and I was telling her about the research I was doing in neuroscience a while back. Right when I was picking up with that her friends yanked her and pulled her out the door. I am not sure what I can do about something like this. Maybe I should have gone with her and her friends? I think I probably could have moved her sooner or something. This kind of sucked. 

After that, I was feeling kind of nervous for a bit and sat outside and choded out again. There was a three set hovering around near by with a cute girl but I never got the balls to open her. There were some people I could have spoken to but I was feeling in my head and kind of scared. I ended up chilling outside for a sec to relax, I felt like I was losing control of my emotions. Then I got back in and met up with Thomas. He cheered me up by being ridiculous and asking some girls in red dresses if they were handmaids or something. We were laughing our asses off at their bizarre reactions.

I knew I needed to start taking action again so I approached a super cute girl walking in but I still felt kind of shitty and the conversation just died in like a minute. I think I was just losing it at this point. I think in this situation  can do a breathing exercise and try and relax my body to remember to stay unaffected by the surroundings. 

I knew that the way out of that shit is to take action. Thomas and I went downstairs and I walked up to a super cute blonde after he slapped my arm to get me back into my body. I approached her and I felt like my shit was more on point. I stepped a bit harder and with purpose and intent. She said she had a boyfriend so that sucked but overall it’s better that she said that because she saved me from wasting my time on her and trying to get her to cheat and shit. She was super nice and stayed and chatted for a second even.

After this we decided to change locations and go check out the Downer. We walked in and it was pretty fucking packed with people. The first girl that we saw was the friend that I switched to at the beginning of the night. Thomas said it would be funny if I reproached her so I said fuck it and did it. He sort of walked in right after me and then they started getting cuddly. I was feeling strange at this point because on the one hand I didn’t care much about this girl and was unsure if I was attracted. On the other hand Thomas came in and started trying to take the girl I opened. But then again he doesn’t know the rules, and overall I didn’t really want her, so I just walked away. It seems like he liked her, they were making out a short while later and he got her contact information. I think he could have pulled that night but he didn’t want to stay up late. 

While he was doing that I opened a cute asian girl that was walking by me. She stopped for a second and chatted with me. Then she went to say hi to her friend behind me while I was like “wait stay here” in a not boss enough way. I think that might have been the wrong call there. Maybe I looked needy or just like gay doing that. I think I should have just let her go and reopened after or been more masculine about it like “get back here after you say hi” or something. I was not proud of that but she still came back after saying hi so it seems like she was giving me another chance. We had a sort of boring conversation. I found out she was a computer science minor, which I like because I’m a programmer. I was trying to ask her about her interests and shit when her friend walked into the set with us. I’m not sure what to do in this situation, it seemed like the friend was just hovering and watching, which made it kind of strange to only address my girl. What do you do here? I mean the friend was kind of fat and gross so I don’t know if I could have found a guy for her. But since she wasn’t actually stopping things I assumed it was fine to just sort of address the girl I opened and her together a bit. But that may have made the frame less man to woman and more friend group. Hmm I think the best call would be to try and find a guy for the friend somehow. Anyway I was kind of being boring and asking too many questions and the shit died. I don’t know why my default shit to talk about is interview mode stuff. I need to snap out of that shit. Instead, I should rant about what I am interested in and just give less fucks about what the girl has going in her life until she is properly hooked.

After this, I approached a set of two girls standing in the middle of the floor. One was pretty cute and I opened her. It was sort of the same thing again with the friend standing right there and watching judgmentally the whole time. The shit died pretty quick and the girl I approached seemed kind of boring and was giving really short answers. I was probably boring her in all honesty. I need to just be more ranty, honest, and carefree. To be fair though, that doesn’t feel like an optimal scenario (the friend is right there standing quietly). I think it’s easier to do two sets when you have a wing there with you ready to occupy the other girl. Thomas was still on that so so girl though at this point. I shouldn’t rely on support though for every two set. There has got to be a better way to handle this. But maybe if I work more as a team with a wing this would be easier. 

Thomas and I saw that girl that he made out with and another girl leaving together. I was like oh shit maybe we can pull them and we ran up to try and talk to them again. I was like hey we should hang out. That shit was weak and did not work. I think in this situation it’s better to go in like a boss and be more physical. I also said some lame shit like “I don’t want to be creepy” which probably just made it more creepy. But it felt inherently creepy to go run up to two girls leaving the bar from behind them so I was trying to calibrate that shit. I guess if I was just a bit more dominant it would have been better. 

I then relaxed for a bit while Thomas finished up talking and making out. He walked over for me and we chatted for a bit before going outside to relax. I was getting fairly emotionally drained at this point. Outside, I spotted a cutish blonde girl on the phone alone and I approached. I was talking to her for a second but she kept talking about needing to find her friends, and I was not at all about that. I wasted enough time in the last field report helping a girl find her friends that I knew I didn’t want to deal with that shit.

We were pretty much ready to call it a night when we decided to do one last sweep through the venue. For some reason I was feeling pretty on point again. I went up to a cute girl sitting solo on a chair and opened. This ended up being like a 25 minute conversation where I had her laughing super hard and I was being witty and clever to make myself laugh. I told her I wanted to go to her house and read a bedtime story called a tale of two titties by Shakespeare. She said she was going to go home to hang with her cat and I was like do you want help feeding your cat. Her friend walked up and said why are you hitting on my wife, and I responded with I love lesbians. I was making myself laugh with that shit, but I think ultimately I was being too overtly sexual and I should have had the sense to tone it down. Also, I wasn’t varying my emotions enough, and I was stuck in the frame of making myself laugh. Being stuck in one place emotional spot conveys anxiety and not relaxation, which is what the girl really wants to see. She was sort of wavering really hard as I was trying to go home with her. It seemed to me like she was right up on the fucking fence and that I could have gotten her home if I played my cards better. I think that I should have toned down the sexuality and also maybe if I had more comfort with her that would have helped. I tested for compliance and that failed (let’s go get a drink) so that was a bad sign, and maybe I should have seen that coming. In addition, I needed to take the frame of marketing and not selling. I think I may have been trying to sell her too hard while I was trying to pull. This is a balance that is hard to attain. Ultimately, it was kind of lame to have a conversation for that long without getting pulling, but it was a great learning experience.

Thoughts/SP:

• Don’t be too overtly sexual
• Build more comfort if you have attraction and remember that attraction without compliance is bullshit
• Try to isolate faster
• Being stuck in one place emotional frame conveys anxiety and not relaxation
• I should rant about what I am interested in and just give less fucks about what the girl has going in her life until she is properly hooked.
• Take a breather when I am feeling overwhelmed, and perhaps do a relaxation exercise
• Establish a sense of teamwork with wings, tackle the two sets together
• Champ over chump is a good way to keep yourself on point

Learning What to Avoid FR

I went out last night to Denver. It was a Friday night. I’m trying to become better at this than I ever have been at this point. My current goal is to be someone who can cold approach effectively and pull 8’s and 9’s consistently. I want a solid rotation of them. This is no easy task obviously. Here is a summary of the night.

I drive to Denver and walk into La Rumba alone. I walked around for a bit aimlessly, too scared to talk to some of the pretty women I saw. As I did this I was regretting it. I need to start taking more initiative on my nights out and making a point to talk to more of women. There is only so much time that I have left in this world. I eventually get the balls to walk up to a girl and say hey. This approach was shit and I couldn’t even look her in the eye. I was kind of in my head. The guy next to her put up a block hand symbol to my face. I assumed they were together as he started walking away with her. Well, first approach down at least. I began taking some fucking action.

A few minutes later I saw a super beautiful woman standing alone behind me. I walked up to her and said “you’re very pretty, I had to come meet you”. I like opening direct, I feel like it’s congruent with my very transparent personality. We started chatting for a second and then she asked me how old I was. I told her I was 27 and this seemed to put her off. She was like “you are too young for me” immediately. I tried to plow through this but it kept coming up. She said she knew she looked young but that she actually had kids and was old. She kept saying that I was very cute but too young. It was impressive to see how much of a boundary this woman had. I think that she is probably right in a sense that I am too young for her because I would not be interested in helping out with this womans kids, I just wanted a one night stand, obviously. So if she isn’t into that then there would be no way for us to be together basically. She must have been looking for something serious. I wonder if I could have pushed through this, but I ultimately ended up asking her “is it a problem that I am younger?” And she said yes, so I said have a good night and walked off. I am not sure if the right thing to do in this case would be to stay in set until she leaves or not instead of leaving voluntarily, but I feel like that would be fucking weird if I stayed. I’m not sure honestly. 

After this, I salsa danced with a very cute girl that I saw. I have been learning salsa, I find that helps a lot with game because you have a natural way to escalate physically with any girl there without needing to talk. She was super hot with a not attractive friend. I think I kind of blew it after the song ended because I stood there kind of confused instead of taking initiative to move our interaction forward. I need to avoid that in the future after I dance. I should move more quickly to get our interaction more cemented. 

Then I ended up sort of hanging around La Rumba stupidly and not talking to women. I didn’t see very many opportunities and I was getting sort of bored. I decided to go meet up with a new wing at a club close by called the Temple. I headed there and then got in and met up with him. I chatted with him for a bit and he seemed like a solid guy. We went in to go do some sets. He took me to the rap room and he opened a two set standing between two columns. The girl he chatted with was decently cute, so I decided to talk to the other one to wing him. I wasn’t sure if I was attracted to my girl or not. As I chatted with this girl, it turned out we had a lot of commonalities and she seemed to be loving me. I didn’t really feel any attraction growing for her though. It was kind of dwindling for me and I felt like I wanted to get out of there to go find a better girl for me. Leo came back and I used that as a way to eject. We then decided to go check the outside to see what was out there. I saw a really sexy girl. I decided to approach her.

I walked up to her and told her that she was really pretty and I had to meet her. She was loving it and I had about 15 seconds of conversation with her until some tattooed guy emerged from hanging by the wall next to us. He started talking to me and so I had to engage because it was awkward with him standing right there and staring at me, and I figured he was the boyfriend by then. I asked him how they all know each other and he explained that he was in fact the boyfriend, so we exchanged some pleasantries and I wished them a good night and left. 

I went back into the club and saw this hottie asian girl standing by herself near the corner of the rail on the second floor of the club. I approached her with my standard line and she was seeming to be into it. I thought she was really cute and I asked her where she was from and she said Nederland. I assumed she meant the Nederland near Boulder. This misunderstanding cost me some time unfortunately. I assumed she lived 25 minutes away from my house in Boulder (in Nederland), but in reality she lived in the Netherlands in Amsterdam. I spent another 30 minutes hanging with her in the club while she was obsessively thinking about finding her friends. That shit was lame as fuck. I don’t really care about her goal to find her friends and I was getting bored by this constant thought of hers. Finally we went outside and could hear each other. This was when I realized that she was actually from the Netherlands and had a flight back at 7am in the morning. The logistics were far worse than I realized for pulling her. Besides that, when I told her that I wanted to take her home she not reciprocating interest in that. This was a dying interaction at this point. It was confusing because she seemed totally into me escalating physically and stuff. When I asked her if she wanted me to stay she said she wasn’t sure. This uncertainty is a bad sign. Maybe this is a sign that I should take more seriously later. I want the girls who are sure. I tried to push and make shit happen. I was wondering if I could push it in my favor given that she was ok with being physical with me and legit not sure. Eventually, she was like I’m gonna go find my friends now. I was kind of okay with that and ready to move on. I wasted a bunch of time here which was lame. I think I need to screen harder and faster for girls with more interest in getting pulled, and ramp attraction harder. 

The last set that I did was a girl that I saw in the rap room. She was a sexy Thai girl. We locked eyes for like 2 seconds and she looked away and went to the bar. I felt that it was on so I went up to her and did my typical approach. She was happy to speak with me and seemed turned on, but she told me that she was married with kids. She said her husband was away on a trip. I asked her if they were monogamous and she said yes. That was kind of a bummer because she seemed super down. I was like could I still pull this girl? I didn’t know, but I felt that the answer was probably no. I tested her compliance by asking if she wanted to go outside for a second. I probably just should have been more authoritative and moved her, but I don’t know if that would have worked anyway because her friends were in the rap room and she didn’t want to leave them. The compliance test failed basically. Then she asked me if I wanted to dance, and I was down because she was damn hot. I danced with her for like 6 or 7 songs and she was grinding me. I was super into that, but I think ultimately this was another waste of time because she was fucking married with kids. Her friends were right there judging and acting sort of weird about it also, they were two unfit lesbian women and one of them seemed sort of angry (pushed me very hard while I was dancing on my girl). The club was getting shut down at this point and I said bye to her and left. Perhaps I could have pushed harder, but I don’t know if I could have convinced her friends to be okay with this. Seems like this shit was a waste of time ultimately that could have been avoided. I then left and went home because I had an ankle sprain throughout all this shit and it was beginning to really hurt.

Thoughts/SP:

- When dancing with girls, make sure to take initiative after the song ends
- Screen harder to find out if a girl is interested romantically sooner
- Be willing to ditch sooner if things seem like a waste of time
- Logistics are key, make them the priority
- Lead harder
- Do more approaches, have no shame

Durr Reality of the Game

I am back into the game motherfuckers. This is going to be a toughy. It has been a looonnnggg break for me. My hiatus was due to a relationship that I got into. I was dating a sexy mamacita who I taught rock climbing. She was super nice and fun to hang with. Long story short, that did not last. She started treating me like shit. I think that it’s probably because I was getting too needy. I was just so sucked into the relationship mentality. I just heard an excellent thing from a RSD Tyler video. Basically, he said that since you are being fed mainstream lies as a guy seeking love, you can perceive neediness wrong. So for example if you end up feeling desperate and needy. That can actually be misconstrued as love! This is totally what was happening. I still am dealing with this stuff. So now, I’m gonna fuck ten other women. Or try to. I mean that is the best way that I can think of to eliminate neediness. I already fucked my first new girl, and it was alright. I mean she ended up being too needy and weird and so I am basically cutting it off. But it helped dramatically. I feel less needy. Anyway, this is the beginning of my reentry into the “DARK REALITY OF THE GAME” OOOOOO. Lol. I am loling because it is so not scary even though I have been feeling like it is. Anyway, let’s get on with my field report’s from the last two nights. I think you will find some thorough flailing if you read ahead.

FR from 5/4

I met up with a wing from Colorado gaming days. My buddy TE. We met at Penn Station and started to drink some Jameson. Mmm. That was quite tasty. We caught up a bit and headed to the first bar. It was a pretty dope rooftop bar. We got in and felt like there were no sets. There qas a dance floor and some people outside on a balcony. Overall there were a lot more guys than girls and so we felt sort of helpless. I’m beginning to see that the girls get snatched up fast as fuck by people with good game haha. I’d love to get there.

I approached one group of girls as a first set. It basically didn’t go anywhere. The girls were sort of older and they humored me, but it was feeling like a fail overall. At least I opened. TE walked in half way through and sort of just stood there and didn’t do shit lol. I think he is really rusty right now and just focused on making money and not on gaming like he used to. I mean that’s fair, but I really like spreading my efforts between game and work so I can have a balance. I might be better off with a luck of the draw style search in the RSD groups for a wing next time lol.

In set, I was being interview mode, and the girls were seated while we stood in front talking to them. This was already a failing setup since we were looking like we were taking value to all around. One girl said she was an auditor and I said auditing was cool sarcastically so I probably offended her lmao. I shouldn’t lie in set.

So we decided to try the bar the RSD guys were going to be at since there was supposed to be bottle service for us there or whatever. We ended up going and it was fucking expensive. I got in and approached a girl solo. She blew me out immediately, saying she had to go find her friends. I may have been able to push through this but I am not sure what the right thing to so was there. One interesting thing that I am going to think about more is something I just read on the RSD forums. If you open without context, then you are just opening with words and that doesn’t give a reason for the interaction. To avoid that, you can first make eye contact and then open. This gives some context.

I went to open another group of girls to the left of where we were chilling at the club. I open it and it is going decently well actually. The set hooked and I was talking to the cute one that I liked. I told her I went to school in Colorado and she introduced me to her roommate who visited Colorado at some point. I was not attracted to the roommate though so I tried to transition back to the first girl as TE walked into the set to try and wing.

Things were going decently well when something happened with some bouncer kicking some guy or something over at the other end of the venue. Everyone lost attention to the set for a second and looked over at that. After that happened, the cute girl I was trying to speak with was noticeably less interested and was sort of darting her eyes around. I was feeling that it was disintegrating as time went on and was thinking that I would just move on to another set and come back later since it was still the beginning of the nightish. I left the set and then said something like I’ll talk to you later.

After a good deal of time looking around and not really seeing any good sets TE and I decided to bounce to another venue. I decided to ask that girl for her number before we left because I just had nothing to lose. She said that she had a boyfriend. Rejection, but whatever I didn’t give much of a fuck about it.

So then we walked to another club called the brass monkey. We hiked in there and it was the same story where there were not so many women. It’s crazy how hard it is to find ladies at this time. I mean it’s like they are all getting fucked somewhere already. They prob are.

We did a good deal of walking around retardedly when we managed to stumble upon a group of three girls. Two blonde German girls and a dark haired girl from Kyrgistan (KG). KG was like flirting with some bro for a bit. Then she walked up to TE and mumbled something. TE turned to me and was like she wants me to hook up with her friend. So he started talking to one of the German chicks. I proceeded to walk off and look for another girl, but I couldn’t find anything that I really wanted to approach.

When I got back, TE was away from the German girl for some reason. He pulled me back into the set, but the guy that KG was speaking with was gone. I walked up to her and we were vibing really hard. It was getting super physical. She told me she had a boyfriend and I told her I am in an open relationship. She was telling me that she is sort of horny and wants to be in an open relationship also sometimes and was letting me get super close. I talked to her about my experiences with it. She said she wanted to get coffee with me later and go see electronic music shows. I got the number. It was a really good interaction for me I enjoyed it. She was super hot. She tested me at some point by saying that I was really young, and I told her that she looked super young, and I think that passed the test. She also tested me by saying that I am just like every other guy and that all guys want open relationships. I was like fuck no I am not like every other guy. I think that was reactive but it showed that I have confidence so it seemed to pass that test also. I got the number and have not hit her up yet. I might do it at like 12-1pm ish tomorrow.

This was the last set of the night, we bailed after. Overall it was not a bad way to start my voyage back into the game.

Thoughts/SP:

I need to be less reliant on alcohol to open
Open with eye contact and then there is context
I need to do more approaches
Introducing more kino helped the last set a lot
Square the fuck up with the girl

FR from 5/5

I go out with my two friends in NY, they are a couple, and a highschool friend, KingMelons. This was the first time I had ever gone to a latin dance club. Boy was it an awful experience lmao. We get in and I am like I need to fuckin approach. I was still thinking that I could do casual game in this setting, which I now think is just retarded after searching what to do in this setting on the RSD forums.

I approach the first girl against the wall at a corner of the bar and start talking to her. She is pretty nice, she was an Au Pair from Italy. I learned a bit about her boring sounding life and was actually hooked, but we did a weird side to side thing since she was against the wall. I have to make fucking sure to square up with the girl if I am in this setting again. This can save me the darting away stuff. I mean there is so much crazy stimulation it’s hard for the girl to focus. I got kinda bored and walked out, saying that I would catch up with her later.

Then we walked to the downstairs position in the club. I was hanging with KingMelons, who was clearly in a state crash. He was like standing there looking like he was having a dissociation from his body. He was absolutely terrified at the thought of approaching and not interested in doing it at all. I think this had an impact on me because I was like trying to hang with him and game but he was sort of hard to ignore. I need to avoid this in the future, and go solo instead of chilling with scared people. It fucks your state up also. I tried to talk to one girl on the dancefloor who seemed like she was making eye contact with me. I asked her for her name and got it. Then I asked what she did and she said she was boring. I think this was my fault. I must have approached with a you are the party vibe that was value leeching. I have to do my best to give value instead of leeching it. I was sort of shook in this environment. I basically had a pretty bad night after this. I couldn’t get any girls to dance with me because I was like way too shy to just walk up and start dancing.

I feel more prepared now because I have been studying dancefloor game tactics. There is a spin move intro that I am going to try in the future. In addition, FUCK TALKING in this situation. It’s just a waste of fucking breath. The best thing to do is to make eye contact and then smile reallllyyy wide and go for the hand, then do left hand spin move into picking a girl up and dancing. EYE CONTACT EYE CONTACT FOR DAYS. Is another thing I want to remember. My eye contact was clearly fucking trash since I was drunk and needy and asleep. I was not able to give value and be present and calm, I was fucking shook.

Basically I got blown out of everything from this point onward embarrassingly. The other guys were fucking going so ham, like the random naturals in the club. They would just fucking go up and caveman the girls by walking up behind them and grinding. It was actually horrifying. I used to do that shit in like highschool but I would have eye contact with the girl at least. I have to smile more and be more aggro with the girls from now on but not in a rapey way like those naturals. In a way that is more like chill and smoother.

Thoughts/SP:
Eye. Contact.
Do the spin move open on the dancefloor after eye. Contact.
Don’t get state crashed by scared buddies
Don’t do the standing and scanning needy shit in the middle
of the dance floor, dance and scan if I have to scan
Give instead of taking the party, leeching value makes you seem sad AF
Square the fuck up with the girl