FR 8/30

I went out with a new wing named Leo in Denver. He’s super good at this stuff and it’s a joy to game with him. I made some mistakes that he didn’t really and I feel like I have a lot I can learn from him when it comes to not giving a fuck.

I rolled up to Viewhouse in Denver and Leo was there chilling outside waiting for me. We saw that the line was super long so we decided to check out some of the bars across the street instead. We realized that we needed some money to get inside these places so we walked up to the ATM. Leo started a conversation with two girls at the ATM. One was pretty and the other was kind of ugly and acting racist about the bouncer. I was still feeling sort of in my head at this time and not saying much, but I also felt like it was weird to be around such racist people. That’s a boundary of mine that I don’t want to have to break, I won’t sleep with a racist girl. Leo seemed to be having a blast bullshitting with them, and so it was good that he was getting a warm up at least. I wonder if I could have winged him here and hooked him up with the cuter girl, but I wasn’t attentive and thoughtful enough at this point in the night to actually work that out in the moment. We ended up ejecting and wandering for a second, before we headed back to see if we could get girls to get us into Viewhouse. We could only get in with girls here because there were separate guys and girls lines for some reason. 

We walked back across the street and Leo was not giving a single fuck and talking to lots of girls, asking them if they were going into Viewhouse to see if we could hitch a way into there. I was impressed with his balls but thought that the plan was probably not going to work (maybe this was a self fulfilling prophecy?). He started talking to two seated girls by crouching down and speaking with them while they sat and ate. I wasn’t sure if this was the best body language to take, but it seemed like things were pretty on with his girl (it was a two set) so I started talking to the other girl. I learned that she was in a sorority and asked her various things about it after making some jokes. Perhaps I was being too questioning and partially judgmental here, but then again I truly think sororities are pretty dumb and that probably came across. She seemed like she really wanted to leave, so she ended up grabbing the friend and pulling her to the pizza stand to find their other friends. I probably could have played that better if I was more warmed up and more riffing on my own things that I find interesting, that would have been more entertaining. 

After this, Leo talked to some girls and convinced them to try and walk us into the girls only line in Viewhouse. We tried and got rejected by the bouncer. Getting in was looking more hopeless. It would be cool to establish better relationships with the bouncers there so that we can avoid that in the future. We decided to check out the gin mill because that had no cover and Leo wasn’t interested in paying one. We walked in and it was looking pretty ratchet. There were two girls seated at a table and Leo walked up opening one of the girls. I went up to the other one and started chatting but it seemed kind of like it was a dying interaction. They were seated and looked sort of hot but flustered and bitchy. We could have probably done a better job of bringing the fun, or maybe we should have been icier. That set ended when Leo started saying bye to the girl he opened and walking off as if she had said no thank you to him or something. 

We continued walking around the bar when we saw two other cute girls. I can’t remember how we got into conversation with them but it seemed like they were about to bail on us when Leo told them that I was his boyfriend or something. This was interesting because a lot changed immediately and the girls were hooked and talking to us. I would never try this or use this as a strategy normally because it seems to me like the only reason you would lie like that is because you aren’t truly comfortable with yourself. That being said, it helped me get into a bit of a better mind set and I liked talking to that girl I was with a lot. We had a bunch in common and she was very hot. Saying you’re gay is an interesting strategy to use to get some momentum going to situations where things haven’t quite taken off yet in the night. The girls got pulled away by some guy shortly after this. Leo said that those guys were their boyfriends.

We went outside to see if we could make something happen. I think I opened the next group but I’m not sure. I was talking to a cute girl but she was totally silent and not responding. The only girl responding in this group was not a looker and I wasn’t interested sexually. Leo was talking to some girl behind her for a second but it looked like that died out and he got into the set with quiet girl, gross girl, and I. This was quickly becoming a waste of time for us and I was tired of being in that situation. After a minute or two I realized that this shit was a waste of time and went and pulled on Leo to leave, saying that we should find hotter girls. We rolled out after he got their instagrams or something. I did a good job of realizing that it was time to bounce here.

After this we went back to try to get into Viewhouse a bit more. It wasn’t working out. Leo even started chatting with some girls that tried to get us in via the girls line, but unfortunately the bouncer was not letting us in there. After a few times we realized that this was hopeless and decided to try Neon Baby, a new club. We hiked in there and headed upstairs. I saw a cute set of two girls sitting on the couch and told Leo we should approach them. He said he would support me so I opened the one on the left side. She was a super hot latina girl and I into her. She liked my direct approach and it hooked. Leo’s girl seemed like she liked him also. The logistics seemed okay on my end because she didn’t have anything to do tomorrow. We chatted for 20 minutes or so on either side of these girls. I was using a new technique called honest communication which is where you basically say whatever the truest thought that comes to your mind is with no filter. I really like that I think it helped with attraction a ton. Attraction just felt fluid and easy to get. 

I ended up escalating a lot physically with my girl and I felt like I should start testing for compliance. I told her let’s go get a drink but she said that she was already drunk enough and didn’t want to go. I feel like I should get better at leading because I hit road blocks at this step sometimes. Maybe if I was more aggressive this would be easier. Then I asked her if I could kiss her and she said no. She said that she hadn’t been with a man in two years. That’s pretty strange obviously but I thought I might be able to push through that. Which ended up being wrong. Perhaps I should have bailed here. That’s obviously a bad sign, but maybe I should have been more aggressive with my leading here also. 

After a bit more chatting, Leo got up to get a drink and I went to speak with him for a second. He informed me that his girl had a kid and a boyfriend,  and that she seemed super into her bf. The logistics got pretty bad for him here but he seemed heroically ready to wing for me. He is a fucking boss and I was glad that he was nice enough to act this way. It was truly an example of a guy putting their wing first and I was impressed. I was unsure about if I wanted the Latina girl though after I failed to get compliance and she disclosed that she was kind of wasted. 

We decided to go look for other girls in a connected bar. We walked in and Leo opened a girl on the dance floor. She was pretty cute and I started speaking with her friend. I was vibing with the friend while Leo was on his girl. I wasn’t’t sure if I liked the girl I was with but I wanted to wing for him. It started to end with the girl Leo was speaking to and the girl I was with and I were noticing. She was disconnecting from him a bit. Eventually, she grabbed the girl I was with and pulled her away. I was sort of ambivalent about this because I wasn’t sure if I was attracted to her anyway.

We pushed past the noisy and energetic dance floor and I opened an asian girl standing at the edge of the bar. She pulled out her phone and starting texting while I was talking to her. It was kind of lame and I didn’t like her look when I was up close. I ejected after 20 seconds or so because she was boring and unattractive. Leo and I walked back into Neon Baby. I saw a girl on the railing by the stairs. I had a sense that this girl on the railing’s boyfriend was the guy hovering next to her. Leo didn’t give a fuck and opened her anyway. I was impressed with how ruthless he is. I think that he was the boyfriend because the conversation ended pretty quick but Leo wasn’t shaken at all visibly.

We saw the girls that we had a 30 minute conversation with. Leo convinced them to go to Viewhouse with us. Maybe we could get in with them helping out? They were super cute. I thought it might be possible because it was around 1:30 at this time and the line might have been smaller. When we got there, Viewhouse was closed and not admitting anyone in. We took the girls to Tavern across the street. I was flirting with the cute Latina a bit on the way there but I felt that the logistics were probably fucked so it was just for funs. 

We got into Tavern and headed up the stairs. We had to wait a bit for the girls, but they eventually came up. When they went to the bathroom right after Leo and I decided to try to find new girls there. I think I got instant disinterest from some girl on the dance floor, and Leo started talking to someone. I did a reasonable job of not caring bout that rejection, I barely remember it now. His set seemed to be going okay so I chilled on the side for a second. I choded out a bit earlier at this venue admittedly when I walked right by some cute girls on the lower balcony. I missed that opportunity. 

I reconvened with Leo a little after and then I opened a set of some asian girls standing under the loud speaker. This set was pretty strange. I opened this girl that I found cute directly and Leo tried to wing me, but they were in a weird little corner and were hard to hear, speak to, and understand. I still talked to the girl I found cute for a little while, but she was not clearly into me and her friends were hovering right there awkwardly next to us. I tried to move the group to a place where we could hear each other but they were not trying to move. It was so annoying standing there that I was psyched to leave, especially with the shitty compliance (not moving). 

Leo and I reconvened next to the girls we had a long set with and spoke with them for another little while before they decided to bounce. The club was shutting down as it was 2AM and we had to leave at this point. We decided to try and do some outdoor sets. 

He opened a few walking girls but I didn’t really see anyone that I wanted, and those that I saw I wasn’t able to take action with. I was thinking that this is the time to be more assertive since it was late and people were ready for an emotional end to their night or whatever, but I wasn’t feeling super congruent with that and ended up not taking a lot of action. Leo and I decided to go get some pizza a few blocks away after things weren’t really panning out. 

We headed to the pizza place and Leo asked some cute girl in line something that I didn’t hear. She seemed to love his beard or something. We started talking to them and Leo managed to convince them to let us join them and cut the line to do so. That was pretty boss of him. I asked them how they all knew each other and two of the people turned out to be married. One of them was the girl Leo opened. The other girl that they were friends with was a really hot Latina and I sort of walked right up to her and started flirting with her. She asked how old I was and I told her I was 27. She said she was too old for me because she was 32 but I ignored that and kept talking. We started vibing and talking about random shit. I was using the new technique that I found out about earlier to just say random thoughts without any hesitation (honest communication), and again attraction came fast. She started digging me and we actually ended up doing a bit of salsa dancing in the pizza line. I thought that was pretty funny and she seemed more into me after that as I was able to tolerate the social pressure of people in line laughing at us and chanting at us to dance for the pizza. 

I think this was going really well but there was this guy hovering into the set the whole time and sort of getting her attention sometimes. I think it may have been her boyfriend but I was not sure. I failed to properly get her logistics and discern what I should be doing and make a plan here. This ended up costing me the opportunity to take this girl home because we split after the pizza line ended and she sat with her friends while I met up and talked with Leo again. In addition, I have been feeling bad about how I winged this set poorly. Maybe Leo wanted this girl and he opened the set. I failed to ask him who he wanted and what he was trying to do with that set. That was me being a shitty wing and I need to have the ability to look at the bigger picture and be better than that in the future. I’ll make sure to check in with my wing and see what they want to do with the set in the future.

Leo opened the final girl of the night. She was a cute blonde girl next to us. He was chatting with her and things ended up going pretty well. He asked if we could sit with her and she was into it. I sat next to her redheaded friend in a sweater. One of the first things I asked her was if she got that sweater from Bill Cosby. She said thanks, because now she knows that she should never wear that sweater again. I think starting with a funny douchey comment is pretty good actually as she seemed super interested. We had a bit of witty back and forth banter. This was kind of fun but I was unsure if I was into her and I was paranoid that she was fat under the sweater. I really didn’t want to take that risk because I have been catfished online so many times and I just don’t want that. This fear was sort of permeating my brain as I was speaking with her and discerning commonalities and logistics (which was a good instinct).

The logistics weren’t that bad, she had a wedding in Denver tomorrow. Unfortunately, my logistics were terrible as I had to get up in three hours to leave for a climbing trip. I didn’t have the desire to stick around any longer despite her being into me. I didn’t want to risk banging an ugly girl that I had nothing in common with. I told Leo that I wanted to bounce and asked him if he wanted to stay. He said he would roll with me and kindly gave me a ride home. In the car, he said we could have pulled those girls. Part of me regretted that we didn’t. Another part of me really didn’t want to take a risk with that redhead. In addition, I felt like I was a shitty wing again and that I could have tried to get Leo laid at least. But he chose to leave with me when he could have stayed. His girl was actually pretty cute honestly. One misconception that I had was that a guy sitting next to Leo was that girls boyfriend that he opened. This thought made it easier for me to want to bail. This was wrong. I need to remember to make decisions based on facts rather than assumptions and get logistics properly to wing properly. 

Thoughts / SP:

- I didn't drink at all and it was kind of awesome. I think that helped my emotional well being stay positive and fluid instead of crashing upon sobriety

- Make decisions based on facts, not assumptions as much as possible

- Have a bigger picture view as a wing to help your bro out as much as possible. The wing comes first.

- Starting with a funny douchey comment is pretty good sometimes

- Ask your wing what they want to do with the set

- Properly get logistics, and fast to not waste time

- Honest communication is fucking amazing and girls get mesmerized

- Take action even when not feeling congruent in the moment

- Relax in the face of it not working out, it’s just a time saver that gives you more time to find the girls that would work with you

- Become more assertive when leading to stop losing opportunities

- I’m getting better at leaving when it’s pointless to stay. Life is too short to waste. 

- Establish relationships with bouncers as much as possible

- Bringing the fun vs being an icy mofo with hot girls is an interesting paradox to explore more

Field Report - 8/29

This night was pretty wild. It was a Thursday night in Boulder, Colorado. 

Thomas and I arrive at Press Play after we drive up around 11 PM. We walk into the venue and I walk right up to smoking hot girl in a two set. I’m getting slightly better at killing my hesitation. I opened directly and then told her what my name was. She then said that I have the same name as her last name or something. Thomas was hovering around next to us. I need to make sure that we have established rules for winging with my wings in the future. He did a bunch of things that I would consider incorrect for a wing but he doesn’t know game. He’s sort of a natural. He’s really good at generating his own fun and that gets him attraction. 

She then ran away to be near some guy playing pool. Maybe if I was more commanding this would not have happened but who knows. The other girl was still there so I switched to her for a bit. This shit seems like it was kind of weak because I was unsure about if I was attracted to this girl. I have been trying to set a personal boundary of only hitting on girls I find attractive. As a result I was sort of half hitting on her and half just using her to get myself into a social mood. After we chatted for a few minutes with Thomas still hovering I tested for compliance by saying let’s get drinks. I moved us to the bar (got compliance) and then we just chatted instead of getting drinks. After a bit of this she said that she was going to go check in with her friends and that she was about to be right back. I ended up saying “OK see you later” and she let out a minor shriek. I think that this may have been her interpreting what I said as a rejection. Honestly, by this point I was still unsure of if I was attracted to her so I didn’t care and decided to move on.

I walked up to the next cute girl that I saw that was in a group of three. I opened direct and she immediately told me that she had a boyfriend. A weird thing happened after that though where she almost said I wish I didn’t have a boyfriend. She said that she loved my approach and that women need to be told stuff like that more often. It was super funny that it happened this way because Thomas had been asking me why opening direct works and what that means. He came into that set with her and I while she explained how awesome I was for doing that to Thomas so that shit was super funny and insightful. Ultimately, after some chatting we didn’t see any other good prospects in the bar, so we decided to bounce and check out the Pearl Street Pub.

We rolled into that motherfucker a short while later. To be honest, I saw a few attractive girls that I thought were very pretty. I missed a some opportunities and was feeling kind of lame about that. I have been using RSD Derek’s “champ over chump” idea to motivate myself and that was chump shit (the idea is that you ask yourself constantly is your current behavior that of a champ or a chump). I must have missed opportunities with 3 women because of choding out in those first few moments in the venue. We headed downstairs and Thomas challenged me to open a set of a man and a woman right next to me. He knew that I was working on getting better at opening mixed sets. In my mind it was obvious that they were together, but I just did that shit anyway because why the fuck not. I opened the girl and she looked perplexed and angry. The guy was actually pretty chill. I asked them if they were together and she said “obviously”. So I felt a spike from this, a smallish emotional spike of embarrassment. But I am super glad I did it because overall it wasn’t that bad. I was a bit affected but there is logically no reason for me to care about what any stranger thinks about me and that helped show me that I’ll be okay no matter what happens. 

After this we started walking up to the bar and I was about to approach a girl when Thomas beat me to the punch. The cunt finally got the balls to do an approach. I was part proud and part annoyed because that girl was hot. I ended up going upstairs where I saw a super cute girl who was kind of asian looking. This is exactly my type. I opened her directly, with her mixed set of friends hovering around. They were sort of standing there and I just ignored them because I was focused on the girl and squared up with her. We got into an interesting conversation and I was telling her about the research I was doing in neuroscience a while back. Right when I was picking up with that her friends yanked her and pulled her out the door. I am not sure what I can do about something like this. Maybe I should have gone with her and her friends? I think I probably could have moved her sooner or something. This kind of sucked. 

After that, I was feeling kind of nervous for a bit and sat outside and choded out again. There was a three set hovering around near by with a cute girl but I never got the balls to open her. There were some people I could have spoken to but I was feeling in my head and kind of scared. I ended up chilling outside for a sec to relax, I felt like I was losing control of my emotions. Then I got back in and met up with Thomas. He cheered me up by being ridiculous and asking some girls in red dresses if they were handmaids or something. We were laughing our asses off at their bizarre reactions.

I knew I needed to start taking action again so I approached a super cute girl walking in but I still felt kind of shitty and the conversation just died in like a minute. I think I was just losing it at this point. I think in this situation  can do a breathing exercise and try and relax my body to remember to stay unaffected by the surroundings. 

I knew that the way out of that shit is to take action. Thomas and I went downstairs and I walked up to a super cute blonde after he slapped my arm to get me back into my body. I approached her and I felt like my shit was more on point. I stepped a bit harder and with purpose and intent. She said she had a boyfriend so that sucked but overall it’s better that she said that because she saved me from wasting my time on her and trying to get her to cheat and shit. She was super nice and stayed and chatted for a second even.

After this we decided to change locations and go check out the Downer. We walked in and it was pretty fucking packed with people. The first girl that we saw was the friend that I switched to at the beginning of the night. Thomas said it would be funny if I reproached her so I said fuck it and did it. He sort of walked in right after me and then they started getting cuddly. I was feeling strange at this point because on the one hand I didn’t care much about this girl and was unsure if I was attracted. On the other hand Thomas came in and started trying to take the girl I opened. But then again he doesn’t know the rules, and overall I didn’t really want her, so I just walked away. It seems like he liked her, they were making out a short while later and he got her contact information. I think he could have pulled that night but he didn’t want to stay up late. 

While he was doing that I opened a cute asian girl that was walking by me. She stopped for a second and chatted with me. Then she went to say hi to her friend behind me while I was like “wait stay here” in a not boss enough way. I think that might have been the wrong call there. Maybe I looked needy or just like gay doing that. I think I should have just let her go and reopened after or been more masculine about it like “get back here after you say hi” or something. I was not proud of that but she still came back after saying hi so it seems like she was giving me another chance. We had a sort of boring conversation. I found out she was a computer science minor, which I like because I’m a programmer. I was trying to ask her about her interests and shit when her friend walked into the set with us. I’m not sure what to do in this situation, it seemed like the friend was just hovering and watching, which made it kind of strange to only address my girl. What do you do here? I mean the friend was kind of fat and gross so I don’t know if I could have found a guy for her. But since she wasn’t actually stopping things I assumed it was fine to just sort of address the girl I opened and her together a bit. But that may have made the frame less man to woman and more friend group. Hmm I think the best call would be to try and find a guy for the friend somehow. Anyway I was kind of being boring and asking too many questions and the shit died. I don’t know why my default shit to talk about is interview mode stuff. I need to snap out of that shit. Instead, I should rant about what I am interested in and just give less fucks about what the girl has going in her life until she is properly hooked.

After this, I approached a set of two girls standing in the middle of the floor. One was pretty cute and I opened her. It was sort of the same thing again with the friend standing right there and watching judgmentally the whole time. The shit died pretty quick and the girl I approached seemed kind of boring and was giving really short answers. I was probably boring her in all honesty. I need to just be more ranty, honest, and carefree. To be fair though, that doesn’t feel like an optimal scenario (the friend is right there standing quietly). I think it’s easier to do two sets when you have a wing there with you ready to occupy the other girl. Thomas was still on that so so girl though at this point. I shouldn’t rely on support though for every two set. There has got to be a better way to handle this. But maybe if I work more as a team with a wing this would be easier. 

Thomas and I saw that girl that he made out with and another girl leaving together. I was like oh shit maybe we can pull them and we ran up to try and talk to them again. I was like hey we should hang out. That shit was weak and did not work. I think in this situation it’s better to go in like a boss and be more physical. I also said some lame shit like “I don’t want to be creepy” which probably just made it more creepy. But it felt inherently creepy to go run up to two girls leaving the bar from behind them so I was trying to calibrate that shit. I guess if I was just a bit more dominant it would have been better. 

I then relaxed for a bit while Thomas finished up talking and making out. He walked over for me and we chatted for a bit before going outside to relax. I was getting fairly emotionally drained at this point. Outside, I spotted a cutish blonde girl on the phone alone and I approached. I was talking to her for a second but she kept talking about needing to find her friends, and I was not at all about that. I wasted enough time in the last field report helping a girl find her friends that I knew I didn’t want to deal with that shit.

We were pretty much ready to call it a night when we decided to do one last sweep through the venue. For some reason I was feeling pretty on point again. I went up to a cute girl sitting solo on a chair and opened. This ended up being like a 25 minute conversation where I had her laughing super hard and I was being witty and clever to make myself laugh. I told her I wanted to go to her house and read a bedtime story called a tale of two titties by Shakespeare. She said she was going to go home to hang with her cat and I was like do you want help feeding your cat. Her friend walked up and said why are you hitting on my wife, and I responded with I love lesbians. I was making myself laugh with that shit, but I think ultimately I was being too overtly sexual and I should have had the sense to tone it down. Also, I wasn’t varying my emotions enough, and I was stuck in the frame of making myself laugh. Being stuck in one place emotional spot conveys anxiety and not relaxation, which is what the girl really wants to see. She was sort of wavering really hard as I was trying to go home with her. It seemed to me like she was right up on the fucking fence and that I could have gotten her home if I played my cards better. I think that I should have toned down the sexuality and also maybe if I had more comfort with her that would have helped. I tested for compliance and that failed (let’s go get a drink) so that was a bad sign, and maybe I should have seen that coming. In addition, I needed to take the frame of marketing and not selling. I think I may have been trying to sell her too hard while I was trying to pull. This is a balance that is hard to attain. Ultimately, it was kind of lame to have a conversation for that long without getting pulling, but it was a great learning experience.

Thoughts/SP:

• Don’t be too overtly sexual
• Build more comfort if you have attraction and remember that attraction without compliance is bullshit
• Try to isolate faster
• Being stuck in one place emotional frame conveys anxiety and not relaxation
• I should rant about what I am interested in and just give less fucks about what the girl has going in her life until she is properly hooked.
• Take a breather when I am feeling overwhelmed, and perhaps do a relaxation exercise
• Establish a sense of teamwork with wings, tackle the two sets together
• Champ over chump is a good way to keep yourself on point

Learning What to Avoid FR

I went out last night to Denver. It was a Friday night. I’m trying to become better at this than I ever have been at this point. My current goal is to be someone who can cold approach effectively and pull 8’s and 9’s consistently. I want a solid rotation of them. This is no easy task obviously. Here is a summary of the night.

I drive to Denver and walk into La Rumba alone. I walked around for a bit aimlessly, too scared to talk to some of the pretty women I saw. As I did this I was regretting it. I need to start taking more initiative on my nights out and making a point to talk to more of women. There is only so much time that I have left in this world. I eventually get the balls to walk up to a girl and say hey. This approach was shit and I couldn’t even look her in the eye. I was kind of in my head. The guy next to her put up a block hand symbol to my face. I assumed they were together as he started walking away with her. Well, first approach down at least. I began taking some fucking action.

A few minutes later I saw a super beautiful woman standing alone behind me. I walked up to her and said “you’re very pretty, I had to come meet you”. I like opening direct, I feel like it’s congruent with my very transparent personality. We started chatting for a second and then she asked me how old I was. I told her I was 27 and this seemed to put her off. She was like “you are too young for me” immediately. I tried to plow through this but it kept coming up. She said she knew she looked young but that she actually had kids and was old. She kept saying that I was very cute but too young. It was impressive to see how much of a boundary this woman had. I think that she is probably right in a sense that I am too young for her because I would not be interested in helping out with this womans kids, I just wanted a one night stand, obviously. So if she isn’t into that then there would be no way for us to be together basically. She must have been looking for something serious. I wonder if I could have pushed through this, but I ultimately ended up asking her “is it a problem that I am younger?” And she said yes, so I said have a good night and walked off. I am not sure if the right thing to do in this case would be to stay in set until she leaves or not instead of leaving voluntarily, but I feel like that would be fucking weird if I stayed. I’m not sure honestly. 

After this, I salsa danced with a very cute girl that I saw. I have been learning salsa, I find that helps a lot with game because you have a natural way to escalate physically with any girl there without needing to talk. She was super hot with a not attractive friend. I think I kind of blew it after the song ended because I stood there kind of confused instead of taking initiative to move our interaction forward. I need to avoid that in the future after I dance. I should move more quickly to get our interaction more cemented. 

Then I ended up sort of hanging around La Rumba stupidly and not talking to women. I didn’t see very many opportunities and I was getting sort of bored. I decided to go meet up with a new wing at a club close by called the Temple. I headed there and then got in and met up with him. I chatted with him for a bit and he seemed like a solid guy. We went in to go do some sets. He took me to the rap room and he opened a two set standing between two columns. The girl he chatted with was decently cute, so I decided to talk to the other one to wing him. I wasn’t sure if I was attracted to my girl or not. As I chatted with this girl, it turned out we had a lot of commonalities and she seemed to be loving me. I didn’t really feel any attraction growing for her though. It was kind of dwindling for me and I felt like I wanted to get out of there to go find a better girl for me. Leo came back and I used that as a way to eject. We then decided to go check the outside to see what was out there. I saw a really sexy girl. I decided to approach her.

I walked up to her and told her that she was really pretty and I had to meet her. She was loving it and I had about 15 seconds of conversation with her until some tattooed guy emerged from hanging by the wall next to us. He started talking to me and so I had to engage because it was awkward with him standing right there and staring at me, and I figured he was the boyfriend by then. I asked him how they all know each other and he explained that he was in fact the boyfriend, so we exchanged some pleasantries and I wished them a good night and left. 

I went back into the club and saw this hottie asian girl standing by herself near the corner of the rail on the second floor of the club. I approached her with my standard line and she was seeming to be into it. I thought she was really cute and I asked her where she was from and she said Nederland. I assumed she meant the Nederland near Boulder. This misunderstanding cost me some time unfortunately. I assumed she lived 25 minutes away from my house in Boulder (in Nederland), but in reality she lived in the Netherlands in Amsterdam. I spent another 30 minutes hanging with her in the club while she was obsessively thinking about finding her friends. That shit was lame as fuck. I don’t really care about her goal to find her friends and I was getting bored by this constant thought of hers. Finally we went outside and could hear each other. This was when I realized that she was actually from the Netherlands and had a flight back at 7am in the morning. The logistics were far worse than I realized for pulling her. Besides that, when I told her that I wanted to take her home she not reciprocating interest in that. This was a dying interaction at this point. It was confusing because she seemed totally into me escalating physically and stuff. When I asked her if she wanted me to stay she said she wasn’t sure. This uncertainty is a bad sign. Maybe this is a sign that I should take more seriously later. I want the girls who are sure. I tried to push and make shit happen. I was wondering if I could push it in my favor given that she was ok with being physical with me and legit not sure. Eventually, she was like I’m gonna go find my friends now. I was kind of okay with that and ready to move on. I wasted a bunch of time here which was lame. I think I need to screen harder and faster for girls with more interest in getting pulled, and ramp attraction harder. 

The last set that I did was a girl that I saw in the rap room. She was a sexy Thai girl. We locked eyes for like 2 seconds and she looked away and went to the bar. I felt that it was on so I went up to her and did my typical approach. She was happy to speak with me and seemed turned on, but she told me that she was married with kids. She said her husband was away on a trip. I asked her if they were monogamous and she said yes. That was kind of a bummer because she seemed super down. I was like could I still pull this girl? I didn’t know, but I felt that the answer was probably no. I tested her compliance by asking if she wanted to go outside for a second. I probably just should have been more authoritative and moved her, but I don’t know if that would have worked anyway because her friends were in the rap room and she didn’t want to leave them. The compliance test failed basically. Then she asked me if I wanted to dance, and I was down because she was damn hot. I danced with her for like 6 or 7 songs and she was grinding me. I was super into that, but I think ultimately this was another waste of time because she was fucking married with kids. Her friends were right there judging and acting sort of weird about it also, they were two unfit lesbian women and one of them seemed sort of angry (pushed me very hard while I was dancing on my girl). The club was getting shut down at this point and I said bye to her and left. Perhaps I could have pushed harder, but I don’t know if I could have convinced her friends to be okay with this. Seems like this shit was a waste of time ultimately that could have been avoided. I then left and went home because I had an ankle sprain throughout all this shit and it was beginning to really hurt.

Thoughts/SP:

- When dancing with girls, make sure to take initiative after the song ends
- Screen harder to find out if a girl is interested romantically sooner
- Be willing to ditch sooner if things seem like a waste of time
- Logistics are key, make them the priority
- Lead harder
- Do more approaches, have no shame

Durr Reality of the Game

I am back into the game motherfuckers. This is going to be a toughy. It has been a looonnnggg break for me. My hiatus was due to a relationship that I got into. I was dating a sexy mamacita who I taught rock climbing. She was super nice and fun to hang with. Long story short, that did not last. She started treating me like shit. I think that it’s probably because I was getting too needy. I was just so sucked into the relationship mentality. I just heard an excellent thing from a RSD Tyler video. Basically, he said that since you are being fed mainstream lies as a guy seeking love, you can perceive neediness wrong. So for example if you end up feeling desperate and needy. That can actually be misconstrued as love! This is totally what was happening. I still am dealing with this stuff. So now, I’m gonna fuck ten other women. Or try to. I mean that is the best way that I can think of to eliminate neediness. I already fucked my first new girl, and it was alright. I mean she ended up being too needy and weird and so I am basically cutting it off. But it helped dramatically. I feel less needy. Anyway, this is the beginning of my reentry into the “DARK REALITY OF THE GAME” OOOOOO. Lol. I am loling because it is so not scary even though I have been feeling like it is. Anyway, let’s get on with my field report’s from the last two nights. I think you will find some thorough flailing if you read ahead.

FR from 5/4

I met up with a wing from Colorado gaming days. My buddy TE. We met at Penn Station and started to drink some Jameson. Mmm. That was quite tasty. We caught up a bit and headed to the first bar. It was a pretty dope rooftop bar. We got in and felt like there were no sets. There qas a dance floor and some people outside on a balcony. Overall there were a lot more guys than girls and so we felt sort of helpless. I’m beginning to see that the girls get snatched up fast as fuck by people with good game haha. I’d love to get there.

I approached one group of girls as a first set. It basically didn’t go anywhere. The girls were sort of older and they humored me, but it was feeling like a fail overall. At least I opened. TE walked in half way through and sort of just stood there and didn’t do shit lol. I think he is really rusty right now and just focused on making money and not on gaming like he used to. I mean that’s fair, but I really like spreading my efforts between game and work so I can have a balance. I might be better off with a luck of the draw style search in the RSD groups for a wing next time lol.

In set, I was being interview mode, and the girls were seated while we stood in front talking to them. This was already a failing setup since we were looking like we were taking value to all around. One girl said she was an auditor and I said auditing was cool sarcastically so I probably offended her lmao. I shouldn’t lie in set.

So we decided to try the bar the RSD guys were going to be at since there was supposed to be bottle service for us there or whatever. We ended up going and it was fucking expensive. I got in and approached a girl solo. She blew me out immediately, saying she had to go find her friends. I may have been able to push through this but I am not sure what the right thing to so was there. One interesting thing that I am going to think about more is something I just read on the RSD forums. If you open without context, then you are just opening with words and that doesn’t give a reason for the interaction. To avoid that, you can first make eye contact and then open. This gives some context.

I went to open another group of girls to the left of where we were chilling at the club. I open it and it is going decently well actually. The set hooked and I was talking to the cute one that I liked. I told her I went to school in Colorado and she introduced me to her roommate who visited Colorado at some point. I was not attracted to the roommate though so I tried to transition back to the first girl as TE walked into the set to try and wing.

Things were going decently well when something happened with some bouncer kicking some guy or something over at the other end of the venue. Everyone lost attention to the set for a second and looked over at that. After that happened, the cute girl I was trying to speak with was noticeably less interested and was sort of darting her eyes around. I was feeling that it was disintegrating as time went on and was thinking that I would just move on to another set and come back later since it was still the beginning of the nightish. I left the set and then said something like I’ll talk to you later.

After a good deal of time looking around and not really seeing any good sets TE and I decided to bounce to another venue. I decided to ask that girl for her number before we left because I just had nothing to lose. She said that she had a boyfriend. Rejection, but whatever I didn’t give much of a fuck about it.

So then we walked to another club called the brass monkey. We hiked in there and it was the same story where there were not so many women. It’s crazy how hard it is to find ladies at this time. I mean it’s like they are all getting fucked somewhere already. They prob are.

We did a good deal of walking around retardedly when we managed to stumble upon a group of three girls. Two blonde German girls and a dark haired girl from Kyrgistan (KG). KG was like flirting with some bro for a bit. Then she walked up to TE and mumbled something. TE turned to me and was like she wants me to hook up with her friend. So he started talking to one of the German chicks. I proceeded to walk off and look for another girl, but I couldn’t find anything that I really wanted to approach.

When I got back, TE was away from the German girl for some reason. He pulled me back into the set, but the guy that KG was speaking with was gone. I walked up to her and we were vibing really hard. It was getting super physical. She told me she had a boyfriend and I told her I am in an open relationship. She was telling me that she is sort of horny and wants to be in an open relationship also sometimes and was letting me get super close. I talked to her about my experiences with it. She said she wanted to get coffee with me later and go see electronic music shows. I got the number. It was a really good interaction for me I enjoyed it. She was super hot. She tested me at some point by saying that I was really young, and I told her that she looked super young, and I think that passed the test. She also tested me by saying that I am just like every other guy and that all guys want open relationships. I was like fuck no I am not like every other guy. I think that was reactive but it showed that I have confidence so it seemed to pass that test also. I got the number and have not hit her up yet. I might do it at like 12-1pm ish tomorrow.

This was the last set of the night, we bailed after. Overall it was not a bad way to start my voyage back into the game.

Thoughts/SP:

I need to be less reliant on alcohol to open
Open with eye contact and then there is context
I need to do more approaches
Introducing more kino helped the last set a lot
Square the fuck up with the girl

FR from 5/5

I go out with my two friends in NY, they are a couple, and a highschool friend, KingMelons. This was the first time I had ever gone to a latin dance club. Boy was it an awful experience lmao. We get in and I am like I need to fuckin approach. I was still thinking that I could do casual game in this setting, which I now think is just retarded after searching what to do in this setting on the RSD forums.

I approach the first girl against the wall at a corner of the bar and start talking to her. She is pretty nice, she was an Au Pair from Italy. I learned a bit about her boring sounding life and was actually hooked, but we did a weird side to side thing since she was against the wall. I have to make fucking sure to square up with the girl if I am in this setting again. This can save me the darting away stuff. I mean there is so much crazy stimulation it’s hard for the girl to focus. I got kinda bored and walked out, saying that I would catch up with her later.

Then we walked to the downstairs position in the club. I was hanging with KingMelons, who was clearly in a state crash. He was like standing there looking like he was having a dissociation from his body. He was absolutely terrified at the thought of approaching and not interested in doing it at all. I think this had an impact on me because I was like trying to hang with him and game but he was sort of hard to ignore. I need to avoid this in the future, and go solo instead of chilling with scared people. It fucks your state up also. I tried to talk to one girl on the dancefloor who seemed like she was making eye contact with me. I asked her for her name and got it. Then I asked what she did and she said she was boring. I think this was my fault. I must have approached with a you are the party vibe that was value leeching. I have to do my best to give value instead of leeching it. I was sort of shook in this environment. I basically had a pretty bad night after this. I couldn’t get any girls to dance with me because I was like way too shy to just walk up and start dancing.

I feel more prepared now because I have been studying dancefloor game tactics. There is a spin move intro that I am going to try in the future. In addition, FUCK TALKING in this situation. It’s just a waste of fucking breath. The best thing to do is to make eye contact and then smile reallllyyy wide and go for the hand, then do left hand spin move into picking a girl up and dancing. EYE CONTACT EYE CONTACT FOR DAYS. Is another thing I want to remember. My eye contact was clearly fucking trash since I was drunk and needy and asleep. I was not able to give value and be present and calm, I was fucking shook.

Basically I got blown out of everything from this point onward embarrassingly. The other guys were fucking going so ham, like the random naturals in the club. They would just fucking go up and caveman the girls by walking up behind them and grinding. It was actually horrifying. I used to do that shit in like highschool but I would have eye contact with the girl at least. I have to smile more and be more aggro with the girls from now on but not in a rapey way like those naturals. In a way that is more like chill and smoother.

Thoughts/SP:
Eye. Contact.
Do the spin move open on the dancefloor after eye. Contact.
Don’t get state crashed by scared buddies
Don’t do the standing and scanning needy shit in the middle
of the dance floor, dance and scan if I have to scan
Give instead of taking the party, leeching value makes you seem sad AF
Square the fuck up with the girl

Las Vegans?

9/26/15

Vegas

Girls we approached (strip):

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      UK girls

3 things I learned: Warming up is becoming easier, but I still started off pretty unnatural. The girl I was speaking with even remarked that “this was a very random thing happening to her (us approaching).”  I could have acted more familiar. I got the logistics early, and found out that she had a boyfriend and was on a family excursion with a girl who was dating her brother and him as well.

-          Talked to a random girl selling hats

3 things I learned: I told her I hated her and she laughed and loved it, this further reaffirmed that throwing girls away playfully creates strong familiarity/attraction. I was super chill and let her react fully, which was making me look icier and cooler.

-          Sexy Italian

3 things I learned: I had her laughing really hard at the wizard stories, but I may have been coming off as the entertainer a bit. Also I was letting turn_around open all these sets, I probably should learn to have a stronger ability to open and have motivation to do it. I completely forgot to get logistics and turn_around did it. Also we switched girls at some point (it was a two set), and the other girl was really stunted and I couldn’t click with her. I should have told turn_around that we should switch back, perhaps we should devise some hand signals for this or something. As well as a clear way to signal what girl is the target, because that caused some frustration.

-          Girls at Twin Peaks

3 things I learned: Should have got the logistics sooner, the girl I liked was really attached to her boyfriend and it just got fucked when I found that out obviously. I can spin wizard stories over the top and it detracts from game, instead I should use them, but do them in a way that adds emotional spikes at adequate times.

-          Busted girls we did selfies with

3 things I learned: Selfies were a really good way to approach. You basically walk up and say you want to take selfies with random people to remember the place, and if someone offers to take a picture you turn them down and say fuck no this is a selfie lol. The girls were really airheaded, one of them was snap videoing our selfie. This was so obnoxious I was just sad about it, it wasn’t even funny at that point. I was not really concerned when we said goodbye to them.

-          Black girl and Asian girl selfies

3 things I learned: I was starting to self amuse over pushing the set forward, like one of the girls names was cho and I said that that was perfect because I have a chode. Maybe this was too self-amusing, or maybe it just filtered them out for sucking. Either way, I blew it. I have to better calibrate to the energy of the set. Maybe unfiltered self-amusement isn’t the best idea if it is inappropriate in the context.

-          “Vomiting” girls

3 things I learned: I approached girls going to the bathroom, they basically pretended one was throwing up. I had the feeling that they were lying but walked away anyway. They proceeded to leave the bathroom in 2 minutes, and the girl who was vomiting clearly didn’t actually. So I think my social radar is getting on point and I am more likely to trust it in the future. I tried to reengage them with bullshitting later when they left the bathroom, but honestly it was hopeless and they were on their way. Maybe if I really wanted them to stay more I could have tried harder to stop them.

-          Five girls in the Cosmo

3 things I learned: I just walked up to the hot girl while turn_around opened the rest of them. I have a tendency to do this. Like I just fucking go for the hottest one and don’t really have a good enough ability to engage the group. I should have a better ability to help turn_around do this instead of just taking the hot girl in these situations. This got him fairly upset later on and I didn’t really see that I did it until he pointed it out. At a certain point you have to be setting others up for success and I don’t do a good enough job at this in general. The conversation with her was kind of shakey and was over when the four other girls bounced away from turn_around. I’m not sure but perhaps we could have done a better job if I helped engage them all instead of isolating the hot one.

-          Shiny dress set

3 things I learned: Turn_around approached girls near a glass elevator, and told one of the girls she had a really nice dress. We asked them to get selfies with us, and got some. Then we found out they both had the same names, like turn_around and I. So this created some chemistry. We went on an instant dinner date with them to a tasty expensive place and hung out with them for about 1.5 hours through that. After dinner they bounced out and went to a nightclub. I grabbed one of their facebooks and tried to meet up after twice, to no avail. I learned how to navigate a long set with a wing a bit here. Turn_around was on at some points and I was just letting him go on, and when it was stalling out I moved us forward through awkward shit and got him to stop giving up easily. I learned a cool polarizing/non-needy trick from turn_around before we got the dinner date. He said to the girls that if they want to hang out with us, they should invite us to chill. And that we are cooler than most people they would probably meet later. He also stated that it was cool if they didn’t want to chill and that we didn’t mind leaving. This caused them to invite us to get food. It seems pretty solid to do this and force chasing. The dinner was good but I got a bit reactive when they tested me on my masculinity for some reason. I should have just laughed/ignored but I reacted a bit too much. In the future I know that this is stupid to react to. Also need to get better at discerning if the set I’m in is a waste of time or not. This clearly was a waste since they didn’t want to meet up at all afterward. At least we learned some from being in set that long with cute Auzzies.

-          Tall chick short hair:

3 things I learned: I forgot to get logistics. I was very physical with her and it actually was going over decently well, she was happy to be touching me but left because “her girlfriend would get mad” if she saw. So there was that. But the physical gangster RSD shit has been really fun to try. I especially like the spin into her arm over your shoulder I think that shit is smooth.

-          3 girls with glasses:

3 things I learned:  We used the selfie opener on a group of three girls. They were down to take the selfie with us. We got the selfie, all of us wearing stupid fucking glasses made them slightly better. We had those dumb kanye glasses, which actually went over really well. Those things were great at attracting attention and I used them to put the prop on girls in some instances. A guy they were with came and scooped them all away. We should have got their logistics instead of just wizard storying them. We didn’t realize a guy was coming, and tried to befriend him but it was kind of too late.

Freemont st:

-          Mexican girl:  

3 things I learned:  I opened a lone Mexican girl who I thought was kind of cute. I was trying to look her in the eyes to test her level of engagement and escalate along with it. I was escalating and things were going alright, I was wizard storying her to keep her logical mind distracted, but she never really got fully engaged. Then I lifted her up and did the spin hug, but it was really fucking slow, like too slow, so she got weirded out and said that she didn’t even know me. She then ran into the club line and said she found her friends. I am getting better about being slow and purposeful, but I need to escalate with a more proper rhythm all around for each set.

-          Other Mexican girl:

3 things I learned: I was trying to help turn_around who opened this girl. I asked for her logistics, and she said she was waiting for one guy. I thought turn_around heard this and would respond, but he blocked it out or something and kept pursuing her but I later found out he wasn’t sure if her liked her or not. He could have kissed her but didn’t, and so I learned that winging is a good time to get logistics, because sometimes the person who opened the set is too engaged to remember to do so on occasion.

-          Asian Girl:

3 things I learned: I talked to this girl for about 5 minutes, she was frumpy as fuck and sad looking. I tried to flip her mood around with wizard stories but I don’t think it was working. She was sad and waiting / looking for her friends for some reason. I was unable to get her feeling better so when she was about to leave I tried to distract her logical mind and draw her back in by saying fuck you I hate you and then jokingly smiling at her. I said that and she gave me a sad wounded look so I guess she was just in a place where she couldn’t get picked up anyway. Her friend that came was very clearly rolling so maybe that’s why she was sad, she was the only sober person in her friend group probably.

-          Two phone girls:

3 things I learned: I need to get better dealing with the phones. The girl I approached was kind of into me at first, but she couldn’t put her phone away and was really absorbed in looking at it and planning something out. I think she was trying to find her next destination. I asked her if she was checking her nasdaq or something, but she was too dumb to understand that. I think I give girls too much credit in general and need to dumb my shit down overall. So I need to find a smooth way to deal with phones.

9/27/15:

-          Casino girl as a warm up

3 things I learned: She told me she was waiting for her husband, so I got logistics immediately off the open. We had a fairly platonic discussion about football and work, so it was a solid way to warm up. She wasn’t really attractive, but I am getting to a point where I can enjoy talking to everyone, which is great for warming up and learning to communicate with a vast array of people.

-          Rusky Stripper

3 things I learned: This girl was a sexy stripper Russian girl. She was fairly dumb though and didn’t know some words that I find basic or what an eskimo kiss was. So I was kind of physical with her off the open and she was digging it at first. I think she really liked that I approached her as soon as I saw her. This usually goes over decently well I have found. It was hard to find any commonalities aside from sexuality between us, but I was in an awkward position to escalate with her. She was on a sofa and I sat across from her on a stool. I am not sure what to do here, but next time I think I’ll try getting her to stand up and do a spin and stealing her seat. This has gone over well for me in the past. Like when I was in highschool. Also I could have joined her on the sofa but I’m not sure if this would be too forward. I feel like I was trying to get into her party just slightly too much, and she felt it and left. I should work on having a full cup and offering more. The escalation and conversation eventually just became forced and uncalibrated. Turn_around did a great job of distracting her friend though so props to him.

-          Massage girl

3 things I learned: I got sort of called over into this set by turn_around and a girl he approached at the bar. I walked up to the other girl and was physical off the open. It honestly looked like I could have made out with her immediately, but I didn’t do it for some reason. I was paranoid that she was actually really fat and didn’t want to escalate. This has fucked me over in the past so now when I’m not sure I get kind of hesitant. She loved my being physical off the open and we got into a really randomly sexual conversation about hooking up in Vegas and getting happy endings and domination. She seemed to want me but I didn’t want it bad enough to continue so I ejected with turn_around. He was appearing to have the same feeling.

-          Girl who took my glasses

3 things I learned: This girl took my glasses off my head in a nightclub and put them on her face. I tried to get physical with her off the open but she seemed a bit reticent and was backing off. Her friends were snapping pictures of us, so I tried to keep it going by telling her to make her best Asian face and do the peace sign with me. She did it but then bounced immediately. She wasn’t really attractive anyway so I was happy to just be using her as a warm up set.  I’m not sure what I learned here. I guess the Asian peace sign thing is something I can use again to reengage a girl who is trying to bounce.

-          Black dress girl

3 things I learned: I told turn_around to approach a cute looking girl in a black dress, and he was not willing to do it. So I walked up and opened instead, to kind of show him that he could/I could/ just do it! I had her giggling at first but fucked it up when I asked her if she was in the bloods or the crips. I was asking her because she said she was from LA but I think she took it as me being racist because she was black. I need to have a better social sensitivity to this kind of shit. Obviously that would look like I am racist and I have to take that into account with people who don’t know me well.

-          Asian girl 1

3 things I learned: She walked in front of me and I opened her by introducing myself I think. It was going fairly well and I was starting to get a little physical. I then told her “fuck you” when she said something that could be construed as reacting negatively to my advances or a test or something. She giggled and I was smiling so there was a chance that it would work, but I think I pushed it too hard because she ran away right after to find her friends. So I think I learned that being testy is good, and I should do it more, but I have to do it at the appropriate pace.

-          Blonde on the platform

3 things I learned: I didn’t really learn much this was just kind of funny. I hopped up on to a platform to talk to a sexy blonde girl, and asked what her name was. It felt like kind of a lame intro but she was willing to talk. Things started rolling when a security guard came and told me to get off the platform lol. I got off and didn’t ask her to come down, which I should have. I think I didn’t believe that I could get her, so I didn’t push it as hard as I could have. I mean I could have at least asked her to come down with me.

-          Asian girl 2

3 things I learned: I opened her in kind of a shakey way, I think I stuttered. I was losing my state from too much walking around and reacting to the environment. The conversation started with her telling me she had a boyfriend, and I pushed through it just because why the fuck not. I was trying to wizard story her, but it was just boring and not funny. So it kind of stalled out and she shook my hand and said it was nice to meet you. State crashes are lame! Also it lined up with me coming down, so this negatively impacted my game and was frustrating. I guess this is a consequence of using drugs when you go out. I just like to do it because it’s fun I think, and not because I depend on it, but it can rule your mental state to an extent. Anyway I maybe should have left this earlier but whatever.

-          Girl walking by me behind the show

3 things I learned: I tried to open a really hot girl who was walking by me by putting my hand out and trying to get her to grab it, but I fucked up and didn’t make eye contact with her. She basically denied my hand and walked by. I shouldn’t be trying to do gangster shit like this in the middle of a state crash. But I was glad I tried something at least. Not having good eye contact is rookie shit.

-          Black girl on the dancefloor

3 things I learned: I was in a state crash, and decided to just try to be congruent and open this girl who wasn’t really attractive, but just looked like she would engage me. I was thinking about how funny it was that the person at the front of the club said that the artist playing was “Ghostface Killer”. He said it in the lamest way possible and it was hilarious. I opened with thoughts about that and it actually went well. She was psyched to talk and smoke started shooting at us randomly, which was cool. Then turn_around came and wanted to bounce because that club wasn’t really his scene. So I left with him. Opening congruently worked pretty well in the state crash, I will have to just open congruently and keep taking action again in the future. This was a solid reference experience of that kind of thing working, since this set turned me around a bit. You could say it was a total eclipse of the heart. TURN AROUNDDDDDDD.

-          Strippers on the street

3 things I learned: Turn_around and I got out into the street and two girls were walking toward us. I stood there and glared at them a bit while they were coming. I had it in my head that they would stop, or that this would work. So it did, and when they got to me, I opened them probably with you look like you know how to party. I think that’s a really good opener for a walking two set. So I walked with my target for a bit and talked to her, she was kind of cool, and I walked her all the way to her car. It felt like she was down to hang out, but it wasn’t obviously apparent.

                We walked to her and her friends car, and I was going to perhaps try to hop in and pull them to our hotel or something, but it wasn’t going easily exactly, since there were people sitting in the trunk behind the car next to hers. She got distracted by them and started talking to their group.

                Turn_around and I decided to bail and head back by foot.

9/28/15:

-          4 girls outside the hooters pool

3 things I learned: We only did one approach this day, but it was easily the best one we did for the whole trip.

                Turn_around opened a two set in the hot tub, and I walked in about two minutes later and plopped in. The girls he opened were kind of chubby but still cuteish. They were discussing some variation of describing respective home towns and current logistics. I spun one of the girls and put her arm on me in a smooth way to get things kind of physical and moving forward. It worked and I held her in a place where I was toying with her that I would kiss her for a second. The sitting girl commented asking if she was going to kiss me then I sat down again. This created a bit of tension.

                We transitioned back to conversation that had an overall irreverent tone for a bit when I got up and grabbed them both in a dumb but entitled way. I held them both in my arms and said that I wanted them both and didn’t want to decide on just one of them. They were laughing at this and digging it when turn_around joined in and it became a group hug. I think this was a bit aggro, or they felt slutty or something because they started to lever away. We all sat back down, and I sat close to the sitting girl. Turn_around tried to get the standing girl to go hop in the pool with them, but she resisted and avoided this. The standing girl got a phone call, got out of the pool, and went back to her chair. Shortly afterward, the sitting girl followed.

                Then a different friend of theirs who was blonde and decently cute joined turn_around and I in the hot tub. She was really laid back and talked to us about her home town and job. She had a really nice body and I was pretty attracted to her. I sort of fucked with her when she got in the tub and wouldn’t be serious with her and took away her validation. I think she really like this. I need to find the perfect balance of fucking with girls minds and saying comfort things. Turn_around asked to go meet the rest of the girls in the blonde’s crew, she obliged. I thought this could be a good idea. We all wandered over to them by the pool, and Turn_around sat with the blondes three friends while I sat next to her on her recliner.

                I turned to the blonde pretty much immediately and asked her what her name was. I got her name. I lied about my name and told her I was part black, which is bull shit. Then things randomly got intensely sexual. She was drinking a white drink and said it looked like semen lol. I told her she couldn’t get mine in an irreverent way. Then she said she bet she could. This made things really hot for some reason like we both tapped into to stupidly attractive force that was uniting us, I don’t really get this often I don’t know how to describe it other than a tantric connection between random people that flows through state and into another person. It’s pretty weird and poetic but alcohol also was making my inhibitions dissipate so I just went for the make out right here next to her friends at 3 pm in the daytime by the pool. She made out with me and was into it. I kept oscillating between kissing her and going back into conversation, to not look like I just wanted her sexually. I was pulling way a bit from kissing so she had to chase. She called me a tease.

                I told her that I wanted to go back up to their place to drink, and I began heading toward my stuff, fully expecting the blonde girl to follow, and go up alone with me, but she grabbed her friends to come up with us, so this kind of ruined my chance to fuck her honestly, because now I had no pull location and a shit ton of people to navigate.

                Honestly though if I had done a few things correctly I probably could have turned it into a non judgmental 5 some with the three girls who were drinking and turn_around. He was kind of in a pissed off headspace but he still managed to entertain and make out with the other girls somehow while I was making out with the blonde and trying to escalate with her. Basically we were in their room and drinking and running around trying to gather our bearings. Here are a couple of distinct moments I thought of afterward where I could have behaved differently to steer the interaction toward that kind of thing:

1.       The blonde got her bra untied by one of her friends. I thought it was turn_around, but I later found out I was wrong. It was one of the girls… She asked me to tie her back up, and I did. This was retarded, I should have at least tried to get her to keep it off. I could have suggested that I take my shirt off as well and that we all do it. Also I can aim things in that direction if this happens again. But she did flash me lol.

2.       One of the tinier and kind of chunkier girls tried to make out with me basically, she isolated me briefly and was stroking my hand and stuff and holding strong eye contact. I think the preselection got her really turned on and she seemed sexually frustrated from watching me make out with the blonde. I could have easily made out with her right there, but the blonde came up, and I chodily decided not to do it, because I thought it would be mean or something. But honestly it was the perfect opportunity for a three way kiss and an opportunity to escalate both of them toward the orgy. So that was a pivotal moment I missed.

3.       At one point I was fingering the blonde while she was like playing with one of the girls vaginas and going pretty far down into that shit. I was standing behind the blonde and fingering her while she was kind of getting into it. She even initiated this, but the girl laying down seemed kind of conflicted and wasn’t 100% into it. Instead of fingering the blonde I should have went over to the girl laying down and got her in the mood by playing with her and making out with her and shit. The blonde was clearly into it, and I should have focused on giving sexual value to the person who was uncertain to bring the interaction toward a sexual place instead of continuing to feed off the blonde’s sex appeal. Since I hung out behind the blonde, this gave enough time for their sober friend to come in, and change the dynamic of the room making it less engaged, and ultimately shifting away from a sexual scenario.

4.       At one point turn_around tried to make out with the blonde, and I got kind of jealous and swatted him away/ grabbed her and moved her. This also set the frame that we were coupleish and that it wasn’t ok for something to happen between all of us. Pretty stupid, I mean I liked her but it was counter intuitively wrong to do that in retrospect. I was acting like sex was a big deal.

I tried to drag the blonde to the bathroom, but she didn’t want to go in with me. Later we went down to the lobby by ourselves to get a cigarette, but I couldn’t convince her to go into isolation with me anywhere. She was really down to be sexual to an extent with me, but not past fingering and making out. It was pretty different. I rolled with her back to her room, got her number and bounced.

So I learned a shit ton from this Vegas trip and had a great time with turn_around! He is one of my favorite friends to do this with. Unfortunately I kind of pissed him off in this set, since I escalated so damn quickly with blonde, and he didn’t get a chance to have her as a target since my game is at a level where I escalate really quickly currently. We didn’t really communicate together that this was his intention, and I pounced on the opportunity to escalate her. I feel like this is a side effect of all of the time I’ve spent out by myself and the alcohol I had ingested. I was very focused on getting forward into the blonde and tunneled on her hard. This is not good when working a set with a friend. I will have to approach sets I do with him with this in mind in the future, to adequately get his goals considered. He was upset that I took the girl in the set he opened, but I thought this was kind of a grey area since he opened her friends in the hot tub, but the blonde approached us together. I mean I haven’t really considered the “he who opens the set gets the target of choice” thing in a while. I have been the only one executing in game for so long that I forgot its relevance.

Thoughts/SP:

So I need to find a smooth way to deal with phones.

Girls really like when you approach as soon as you see them

Taking away validation should be one of your first moves

Do everything you can to promote the idea that sex is not a big deal and that you are non-judgmental.