FR: Flying Solo

Logistics:
Wednesday, 2/26/14

FR:

               I went out alone for the first time yesterday. I could only manage about an hour and a half out. I was feeling lots of pressures that I need to settle from the environment. People are really not as mean as they seem when you’re out alone, and I have to internalize that a bit more. Here’s my recollection.

               I walk into the Walrus and try to get into a set immediately. There weren’t to many people there so I just walked into the first 4 set I saw on my left. I was trying to come into interactions with a frame of just having fun with no attachment to getting laid. I talked to one girl on the left for about 5 minutes about random shit like where she was from and the color purple. Things were stalling out a bit then one of the girls told me she was a lesbian so I got frozen out hard. It was a warm up set though so I didn’t really expect it to go well.

               I then approached two girls in the corner sitting on the couch. We got into a long interesting conversation about Texan culture and guns. They weren’t too attractive though, I just wanted to talk to them to keep a social feeling going. That went on for about 20 minutes, and then they got up and went to get a drink. They basically froze me out that way but I didn’t care too much I was just trying to chill with them for a bit. I went on to the next bar and talked to some random guy for a while, to stay social. The bar there only had mixed sets and I didn’t feel like doing those.

               I left that bar and headed to the Downer, where I approached a couple of girls, one was really attractive in some interesting designs. I discovered that one of them was a designer so that was interesting except they both eventually ran away. I’m having problems keeping sets hooked again; my conversations keep stalling out for some reason. After that I approached two girls at the bar, this was my best set of the night even though it didn’t really go perfectly. I talked to one blonde girl and was joking around with her immediately from after asking what her name was. She seemed funny and we were vibing pretty well at the bar. She and her friend got drinks and then I followed her back to the middle of the bar area where I got her isolated. We got into comfort a bit and I was throwing hoops at her to jump through. She answered all my questions seriously so I knew she was attracted. I was escalating kino and things were going pretty well, it got kind of sexualized. Then her friend came over and whispered something in her ear. Right after she asked for my name, and I told her. Then I couldn’t remember hers. She left after that. So that was disappointing that it stalled out like that but forgetting her name was kind of a mistake. Maybe I lost my state a bit and she saw hesitation when I forgot it, or neediness/ nervousness that she would leave. I think I just have to develop the ability to bring positive emotions from within myself in a stronger way. That could help me with reactivity in these situations.

               After that I did another 2 set in the downer and it was going pretty well, we got into some interesting discussions and I was incorporated into the conversation as if I was their friend seamlessly. It was trippy how easily it opened. After a while though one of the girls said they wanted to go talk to their other friends and left with her.

               I tried to go back to the Walrus after that but the two sets I opened just failed badly. I had been out for only an hour and a half but felt over it, partially because of the lack of people out on a Wednesday. I drove home.

Thoughts/SP:

-        I have to stop relying on women for my emotions so that I can stay in state for longer periods of time

-        Work on not losing hooked sets, maybe I should stick with my strengths in keeping interest, ie: being goofy and making girls laugh

-        Get better at mixed sets

-        Overall going out alone was really interesting and a lot more self-motivated, you have to just hammer away at approaching and sets because there are no wings for you to go join or chode out with.

               

FR: Back to the Basics

Logistics: Thursday October 3^rd, Friday October 4^th,

Wings: Flow, Blader

Locations: The Tavern, Clerys, The Minibar, Whiskeys

Thursday:

            I feel it all coming back to me. It's like muscle memory or something. The progress I’m making is quicker than the time it took to first learn it. Once a pua… lol. Anyway Friday night went like this.

            I met up with Flow at his place. We hopped in a cab and went to the Tavern, the venue where we spent Thursday sarging. We walked in the venue and began running set after set. I can’t recount all of them, but I’ll note a few that come to mind. I walked into the main area of the bar and went into a mixed set with two girls and a guy. I started talking to one of the girls for a bit. Things were going well, the set hooked and I was getting laughs. She seemed into it, I opened direct and it worked fairly well. I was trying to make her laugh and DHV etc. I stayed in set for about 10 minutes until I asked her what her stripper name was. In this situation that was a push to far. She left uncomfortably. I should have calibrated to her comfort level better, but it’s hard to make a conversation sexual when things that small make a girl uncomfortable. It’s something I have to account for.

            I opened a two set of girls as my first approach. One of the girls was actually pretty cute, and it probably seemed obvious that I was targeting her. I was talking to her and her friend and things were going smoothly until a guy walked up and sort of grabbed the girl I was talking to. He started hugging her and pulling her close to him in a way that seemed like he was a friend of hers trying to amog me, not a boyfriend. This is an extremely potent amog technique because I can’t really do shit when I’m standing there trying to counter him touching her. I mean I just took the blow out and left. I tried to befriend him but it would have been awkward for me to keep looking at them and shit so it was hopeless.

            Flow and I met up and tried to do sets together. I opened a 4 set of girls and Flow went in to wing a minute after. Things were going well until the conversation seemed to stall out with the girl I opened. She was acting bored until she left to go to the bathroom, leaving Flow and I with the other 3. I tried to transition into a conversation with another member of the group, but that couldn’t hook and they all left. This was sort a recurring element in the sets we did all night. The girls we opened kept running away a bit after we hooked, we just couldn’t keep interest. This is a SP I need to break through clearly. I’m going to try adding more chick crack, or lovable asshole stuff from Gambler. That stuff always killed it for me in the past.

            Flow opened a set of some very attractive girls in the back of the bar at one point. I went up to wing only to overhear an AMOG walking in to blow Flow out. He was scary looking and told Flow “they aren’t interested”. He looked mortified and we discussed how to combat that after. We decided to disqualify ourselves from the amog/group with something like “don’t worry I’m gay”, which could counter amogging solidly. I actually incorporated that into one of Friday night’s sets and it seemed to work well. More on that in a bit.

            I opened another set in the Tavern that just wouldn’t hook. I was really trying to hook this one and didn’t want to eject from any of the sets all night to get as much experience as possible from them. I walked up to a two set of girls and opened the blonde one telling her she reminded me of a Swedish girl. Her Asian friend immediately hugged her and they were pivoting around while I was trying to hook. They kept shit testing me. They blonde told me the Asian girl was from the Philippines and I said I speak a little Chinese, and then she called me racist, which I assume was a shit test. I tried to ignore it but the eventually pivoted into a larger group and I was locked out. I don’t know how to interact with girls when you try to talk to them and they start hugging and looking scared. This is something to mess with though, because girls seem to do it all the time.

            Though I know I did at least 5 more sets, the memories of them are hazy, but I remember most of them went the same. I hooked for a bit until they got bored and ran away. I need to be more interesting to keep their attention. Next time I will throw in more chick crack and try to break rapport. Going with the conversation in a group creates no tension and things kept stalling out.

            Later Flow and I were outside the venue looking for sets to open outside, where things were less hectic. Flow spotted a two set seated on a bench and I went to open. I tried to open with a technique I’ve been using back home that has been working decently well. Basically I walk into the set super high energy and say some shit like “WHATS UPPPPP”. I opened with that and they started giggling. After some shit testing they seemed into talking to me. I passed their tests well enough that when Flow came in they were hooked with both of us. We got them talking about their lives and interests, and got into a group conversation. I kept trying to break it up so that Flow was able to isolate one girl and I was able to focus on the other, but every time I tried it continued as a group conversation. Flow and I agreed to make sure we break it up more obviously next time we get into a solid 2 set. Flow number closed one of the girls and I was trying to pull to an “afterparty” at Flows place since I am leaving town tomorrow and won’t have time for any day twos. The girls declined, but we still learned a lot from the set over all.

Friday:

            I met up with Flow, Blader, and Kingmelons was with us. He doesn’t game anymore so he’s not listed as a wing, but an honorable mention nonetheless. We waded through two houseparties with terrible ratios before we said fuck it and went out to the bars. The first place that we gamed was Whiskeys.

            We walked in and did a quick loop, not really seeing any talent. The horrible ratio seemed to be following us around like a black cloud. I opened a 5 set I think with 4 girls in it. I opened naturally with hey whats up or something. Things went well but the conversation began stalling out once again. Flow showed up with Blader and I tried to pull them in, but they were in a corner so it was not going to be possible to get all of us into the conversation. After some hard stalling out we ejected or got blown out I’m not sure. I am unsure of what happened exactly. We decided to hit up the Minibar since we couldn’t get into Storyville because we were dressed to casual.

            On the way to Minibar a group of girls was walking quicker than us. I turned around and said there’s four of you and four of us omg its destiny. A short girl in the group was not having it and she resisted everything I said. I tried to tell her that I was harmless jokingly but that made her more upset I think. Blader was actually doing decently with the back two but once we got to minibar they weren’t waiting up for us and scurried away. Perhaps I should commit more to moving sets instead of just giving up, or maybe find a new tactic for changing girls frames who are not receptive.

            Minibar was cool but dead. Blader opened a 4 set of all girls sitting at a booth. I walked up with Flow trying to wing but we ended up just standing there since there were no seats, and I decided we were doing more harm then good. So I didn’t do any more approaches there even though I should have. I ended up just bullshitting with KingMelonz.

            We wandered to Clery’s and once again there was a horrid amount of guys. It just wasn’t our night I guess. However, a good pua should be able to prevail even with bad logistics. I remember finding nothing until we went to the basement, where Flow approached a 2 set of girls. I walked in to wing shortly afterward. They seemed bored or upset, I don’t really know why but their energy was low. I have to learn how to change a girl’s frame/pull her into mine again, I used to kill at that. An amog walked in and asked one of the seated girls how many guys had come up to them that night. He said it was funny to see how much they were getting hit on. I turned to him and disqualified myself using the “its ok I’m gay line”. That actually worked splendidly, he got blown out and left. Unfortunately while I was dealing with the amog, friends of the two girls Flow opened came and pulled them away. Dealing with the friend distraction is something I have to work on.

            The last set of the night was pretty much going to fail no matter what, but at least it was funny. I walked up to four girls hailing a taxi outside Clery’s, and told them they were cute. One of the girls immediately looked at me and asked if I was 12. I said no I’m 11. Then she said I don’t like 11 year olds and walked with her friends down the street. Blader came in to try and salvage it but there was no saving this lol. Maybe In cases like this making a shit test more ridiculous is not the way to go. I’ll try ignoring this question and changing the subject next time.

Thoughts/SP:

-       1 I have to remember how to pull a girl into my frame to change her emotional state. This will allow me to pull easier by bringing them into a better mentality

-       2 I need to ignore shit tests that are really obvious on some occasions, intensifying in this case plays into their frame

-       3 Throwing in more chick crack and playful asshole Gambler material will make the conversation stay interesting, things have been stalling out to easily.

-       4 My wings and I need to hype the shit out of the pull location

-       5 I need to learn to control the friends coming in to pull people away. Maybe being more interesting will help take care of that

FR: Crash and Burn

Logistics:

Wednesday October 3rd 2013
Location: Storyville
Wings: Flow

 I walked up to storyville tired as fuck. I was sleepy from taking the redeye back home to Boston, but I was psyched to chill with Flow again since it had been a long time since we had gamed. Flow is getting way more into it and its cool to see him progressing. It’s also interesting to compare my current AFC level to his current rAFC level.  We both have lots of work to do.

 Anyway we walked up to the venue and realized it was 20 dollars to get in. We decided to ask some of the people who had been inside if it was worth it to go in, and this also provided us with sets to open to get in state. Although I never really got in state the whole night unfortunately. Flow opened the first set and asked how it was in if it was worth going in. It was a mixed set with one guy and one girl. They told us we should go in.

 I opened the next one outside since we wanted more opinions. This set was also mixed with 2 girls and a guy. 2 of them told us not to pay and one was convincing us to go inside. This set was going well though and the group was beginning to chill with us and it hooked pretty nicely. We decided to pay the 20 dollars to not be bored and get some opening experience in.

 The second we walked in Flow was amped to get in set. He def pushes me hard to open. We both looped around the venue looking for approaches. We me at the opposite end without any progress. Flow charged the first set. He opened 2 cougars and I came in about a minute after. Flows girl was alright and he seemed to be doing well. Mine was an HB3/4 so I was just running interference. When Flows girl left I started ignoring mine and went to chill with flow more. She was not my type at all.

I tried to open the next set. As I recall there were two girls at the bar. I went direct and tried to open them whilst they were facing away from me. I opened direct and one looked at me for about half the time I was in set. The other didn’t pay attention to me at all really. I should have been more assertive in getting her friends attention perhaps, but in the moment I was not thinking clearly. I can’t remember if I walked away or they did, but that set was bad.

After that we talked to the second set we opened that night for a while. They were Albanians, and all funny people. They invited us to a lounge party on Friday that we are going to check out probably. Flow got the number of the one cute girl in the set, and I was talking to her friends for a while. Afterward we decided to get back at it.

I tried to open a set moving toward me. It was a set of two cute girls, I tried to open and they kept walking. I probably should have tried harder to follow them or to stop them.

Then I approached a girl by herself and started talking for a bit. I tried to plow through for a while, but she told me she was with someone and left to go see them after a couple of minutes. That one went badly, but I was glad that I didn’t eject to early because I felt that I had been struggling with that.

Flow and I left the club a bit later. I felt that I was out of practice and was trying to understand why things went so badly for me. Flow was understanding and we had some good discussions on the way back to his place.

Thoughts/SP:

I can’t eject from sets to early, that really limits the experience I’m getting from each approach. The mixed sets we did were fine, and I would like to practice mixed set gaming more. I also felt like getting in state was not happening for me, probably because I was tired and not used to gaming in an environment with blaring music. The game I’ve been running back in my home town in Boulder has been mostly in places that are more laid back. It is important that I learn to speak up and command attention in places where it is hard to focus. And I have to do more sets! I was getting some serious AA since I was gaming fairly sober. Perhaps substance dependance is hurting my game as well.

Back in Action

Well it’s been a year and a half since my last post. I am back in this shit full force as of now. My relationship has been on a steady decline since May and as of now we are no longer speaking. I am extremely motivated to move on from her and find another girlfriend or perhaps just a casual arrangement. Because of this I am going to start blogging about my excursions once again. All you noobies and pros out there should send any advice my way if you are willing to share. The path to mpua is long and I am back at the beginner level now. It’s going to be difficult to develop my skills again but I am determined. When I got into that relationship with my ex I learned a lot about myself. One thing that I realized is that if you want to prevent a relationship from being a ticking time bomb as soon as it begins, you have to be selecting your woman from abundance. Cultivating a rotation will be entertaining and will allow me to have that non reactive mentality. So without further ado, I will begin spewing semi-regular field reports at you semi-interested readers.

Throwback

It's been about two years since I'v updated this blog. I can't believe how far I've come as a person throughout that time. My goals have majorly changed along with my outlook on life. Since HBBoobweed I have realized that if I know what I was doing in bed back then she would have been mine. I have destroyed two relationships since then and left the girl begging for more each time. The first one was a big mistake on my part, the second became my current girlfriend of 6 months.

I haven't been to a club in ages. The last time I went was four months ago and I made out with some slut, old habits die hard I guess. Anyway I kept it from my girlfriend for a while before I told her. I was scared that it would break us up and that it would crush her. But I knew telling her was the right thing to do because I can't lie to her when I look into her gorgeous eyes. She forgave me because shes an angel and she understands that I'm past that kind of thing.

There's no reason for me to game really anymore, at least until I convince her to have a threesome with me. Then we can start looking for girls to join us in the freaky shit we do in bed. I can't stress how good she is, she does pretty much whatever I want whenever. (We had sex 4 times yesterday, because it was Wednesday lol)

I will never stop seeing things through a seduction altered lens. I can still read social interaction and attraction cues like numbers in the matrix. If this relationship falls through I'll be back into it for sure. But I don't see that happening. My ultimate goal was always to find a girl that I loved enough to want to marry and spend my life with. She's the one.

So yes this is going to be sappy, but I'm leaving this blog indefinitely on a positive note. Game was the reason I was able to achieve my goals with women, and find the perfect woman for me. The experiences that I blogged about over the many months that I practiced game changed me from an introverted kid to the confident and sexually secure man that I am today.

I hope all of the followers of game win it, it certainly feels like I have. The prize is peace of mind and the ability to cultivate a life without obsession with the chase. Good luck.

FR: Fuck the Police

Logistics: 4/8/2010
Location: Middle East Nightclub
Wing: Vincent Gallager

Report:

This was a night when I really wanted to go out since I hadn’t in a while. I extremely excited to see how my skills were doing even when I hadn’t been using them in almost over a month. It was comforting to see that they were still up to my current par. The night went like this.

We arrive at the central stop station in Cambridge at around 9:30. We make our way to the club and notice a group of cute girls walking the same way. I opened situationally by asking where the venue was. They said they were going to the same club so I was excited. But they didn’t really slow down to talk. I could have planned this out better but it was still good that I opened.

We got inside and nothing fun was happening yet. There was some shitty band playing acoustic guitars or something so we decided to roll out for a little to chill. We went outside, and it was a lot better when we returned. There were lots more people in the venue and many sets to toy with. The girls we talked to earlier smiled at Vincent, so I knew we could use them later as well, even though they weren’t that receptive at first.

I open a set to the right of me by genuinely talking about how I wanted to be raving instead of listening to some shitty folk or something. One girl was more into talking to me than her friends so I decided to go with it. She was funny though she was probably like an HB7, and I built attraction with her in about ten minutes, using lots of quirky humor and some new heavy kino escalation techniques from Gambler. A new band came on and we pushed up to the front row to dance.

I pulled the girl into me and we grinded for a couple of the songs. I kept qualifying her sexually and she insisted that she would prove herself to me later. It hurts to get all these potential same night lays when you don’t have a place to pull to. It will come soon enough.

She went to get another drink, she was 21, and told me to wait for her. Instead I just went and re-opened that old set we had talked to on the street. They were extremely receptive now, it could have been the fact that it was the second approach or that they saw us having fun with the other group of girls. We talked for a while and I noticed the HB7 looking at me with a heavy set of “fuck me” eyes. It was cute but not enough to make me chase her.

Instead me and Vince started dancing to the now furious beats of techno music. We were having a shit load of fun and I hit a three set of cute girls to the right of us with some salt shaker dance moves. They responded with cowgirl stuff and I brought the dice move into the equation. I lassoed around her and began to reel a cute one in when the HB7 walked back up in front of me.

“What are you doing with these other bitches? I’m hotter than them.” She jealously blurted. I teased her for being that type of girl and we continued to dance. Then I convinced her to give me some alcohol. The second I took a sip I felt a strong hand on my shoulder pulling me towards the exit.

The fucking feds strike again. I got kicked out and didn’t even get her name. I talked to the officer about how the laws were bullshit and he even told me he drank at my age. Whatever I wasn’t too disappointed. I had an extremely fun evening and I know that because of abundance mentality I won’t fawn over any missed opportunities.
I was on fire all night.

SP / Thoughts:

1. I will no longer drink in clubs with police watching, or at least I will be very careful.
2. Gambler method is stellar for building attraction and comfort quickly.
3. Girls on the street need to be approached from the front.
4. Working on ways to switch targets.

Lay Report

HBBoobWeed

In the heat of my Haloween Frat extravaganza that I was swept into, I opened BW’s set with her off somewhere. With my wings KingMelons, Flow, and ___ standing in the center of the room, I locked into the set with a twirl manuever. BW’s friends are gross though so I ejected after I had won the set, she wasn’t there and I had no target in mind. We are deciding whether or not to leave when ___ gets back into my opened set to see if he can pull. I ran more game on whoever was there, but I had already hooked up with my first college chick earlier so I didn’t really care too much.

We begin to walk to Edge’s car, when ___ called, he had successfully pulled the set. I see a new face in the crowd of girls I had deserted. She was about an 8 and the only possible target left. I sat in shotgun in the car but through her drunken rambling I was able to discern that she and I shared intrests. We were both into Zeppelin and LOTR, nerd like at its peak. I built comfort over the shoulder with her and we arrived at Edge’s.

She had a g in her bra and I was ecstatic. Ending this phenominal day blazing was something I was looking forward too. We mostly stayed in a group and discussed a wide variety of topics. We were sitting in a circlish form and nothing was happening in particular. BW, her friend Tubbs, and our friend DC went out to smoke. We went outside and I began to lose mental control. I had no real conversation with BW and I wasn’t really trying, but I began to flirt with her Tubbsy friend because I failed to comprehend reality accordingly. We went back inside and I embarassingly flirted more. The night ended with me wishing there were eleven more German girls where I was.

BW found me on facebook and we already had one friend in common. He started the PUA’s of Boston group on facebook. I joined and he friended me. About a week later she chatted me with something along the lines of “how do you know X?” We began to talk and I trasitioned off of this into comfort. We talked about our beliefs and I made her lol while discussing deep topics like morality and sexuality. FB chat was a really good way for me to build a ton of comfort and rapport, she genuinely liked chatting me and it became fairly regular. Eventually it came up that I was going to The House of Blues with my friend for a Girltalk concert. She said she lived right near there and gave me her number so we could blaze beforehand.

I was kind of confused when she said Tubbs was coming along but I decided to act like I never blammerdly flirted with her and concentrate on BW because I had gotten pretty far along with her on FB chat. We met up and things went really well, we were joking around like we were old friends and talking to eachother comfortably. She pulled another g out of her shirt and I danced with joy. Ignoring her friend worked perfectly too, and my friend and I left on a good note. Now I had her number and a ton of comfort.

She told me she was going away for a while, and I wasn’t too invested so I didn’t care much about it. While she was away we continued having random FB chats and talking intermittently. She was a cool girl to talk to and had some funny opinions. Sometimes we would text trippy thoughts too eachother, helping each other dissect the meanings.

She came back after a while, the night I was going out with Flow and Kingmelons to hit up frats in Boston I texted her to come meet me. She initially said no, but when I texted her “come meet me or I’m cheating on you” she said OK OK where do you wanna meet up. We found eachother at the first frat I went to and she was clinging to me hardcore. I wasn’t really thinking about hooking up with her then but she seemed really into it. I was just excited to run lots of game.

She saw me in about eight to ten different sets, as well as with the girl I succeeded with, HBFreck. Outside when bouncing she fought hard over me and it was so on with both I couldn’t help but chuckle. I din’t have too much contact with her later that night because I was busy hooking up with the other one, but I said my goodbye to her and she and her friends left.

The next weekend she texted me asking what I was doing. I told her I was heading into the city and she said I should come hang out with her. In her dorm. I decided to go for the lay. We got to the party she was at and I had mixed feelings. The party was lame but it presenteds a good opportunity to try with BW. I started the night by taking shots with KingMelons and I was becoming drunk quickly. BW was off talking and I was beginning to become frustrated, I said now or never and got into a set of her and one chodey looking guy.

Blew his ass out and I told her we should smoke, I knew she would be down. We began to leave when she got in another set of guys, I cavemaned her and picked her up over my sholder to leave. The walk back was cold but I escalated kino with her so she knew the deal at least subconsciously. Handholding to putting my armaround her shit was getting intense. We got back to her Tubbsy friends dorm. Her roommate left college so Tubbs had the room to herself and a free bed. While BW and I were trying to figure out the situation with smoking, KingMelons fell asleep lol. Yeah it was on. I felt her skin and was talking about how she was so soft lol. Then I made her stroke me, and I pulled her in to makeout. Got a little LMR blasted through that shit. She stopped me a little and said, “my boyfriend is going to sleep do you mind if I call him?” I was like no I don’t judge. She fucking called her boyfriend and said goodnight ai love you. She hung up and we got in bed, clothes started flying off and yeah first lay from game.

I did what Captain Jack suggested and asked her when she realized she was attracted to me afterwards. She said seeing me that night with all of the other girls she had to try not to make out with me right there. Pre-Selection is extremely powerful in creating attraction. But I think my cocky confidence played just as much of a role in getting her into me.

Thoughts/SP:

Unfortunately I wasn’t really able to convert her into an FB, things got weird when she texted me that she will go to hell for what she has done. And that she can’t trust herself anymore. The next time I invited her out she said she just can’t and I am pretty sure things are over. I need some better strategies for FB management and what to do after sex.

Building comfort over AIM is a great strategy that gets you far, especially with the inherent ambiguity of chat.