FR: 12/18-20 Explorations

                This field report is going to basically go over two separate nights.

                Thursday: I met up with some friends to head to the Mat Zo concert. We pregamed a bit at Flow’s house, and had some conversation about books and more. It was good to get social before heading out by getting comfortable being out of my head.

                We headed to the Royale and got inside. I went back outside with KingMelons to smoke, and saw a really hot 2 set. I opened them directly, and told them I wanted to talk to them because they were cute. It went fairly well from the beginning, and we thought of some friends in common and talked about casual shit like travelling and music. They told me they were rolling, so I didn’t want to pursue it further since I was just drunk. I have become uncomfortable with the idea of hitting on girls who are that fucked up since they aren’t themselves really. So I kind of the set when we went back inside and they went to the dance floor, but it was no big deal.

                Melons and I went to meet up with a girl who has been in our friend group for a bit, and we found her with a different crew. We talked a bit, and then Melons left her and I alone. I remember bumping into her jokingly with my ass, and after that she was all over me and we were making out. I don’t exactly know how this happened… Anyway I was unsure of whether I wanted to take her home or not. Later in the night I went and found her, realizing that I wanted to, and said “I want to take you home.” I think this was retarded in retrospect, I could have just as easily said “let’s go watch a movie.” This would have had no sexual implication. Honestly I don’t know if that really made a difference ultimately, since she turned it down anyway and said we should just get food later in the week. So it’s all good I am trying to make that happen at the moment.

                I opened another girl next to me on the dance floor, and told her I like her style. She kind of nonchalantly kept dancing so I didn’t try too hard. After this we decided to leave because the sound system at the Royale was so fucking overwhelming we were all in pain.

                Saturday: I went out to a dinner party with some friends where we played Cards Against Humanity. It was kind of boring but it got me in a social mood before we headed out.

                I met up with other friends to go to the Scholar. Great fucking venue by the way I loved it. I did one approach simply asking what a girl’s name was. She told me her name was Daria and we talked about Beavis and Butthead for a sec, but I think she was egging me on to hit on her because her alpha BF was nearby and she wanted a reaction. Or maybe she was just drunk who the fuck knows. Anyway he walked up next to her and grabbed her, completely alphaing me, I was just watching and came up with a quick way to not get hit in the face. I said that he shouldn’t worry about me because I’m gay, to which he responded that he could tell. So that was that and I left.

                Later I approached this girl who I spent about an hour talking to. She seemed chill and well put together, I liked how our conversation was flowing easily. I asked her Mark Manson’s polarizing questions. 1. Are you single? 2. Do you think I’m cute. 3. Why aren’t you making out with me. She responded that she wasn’t single but didn’t really have a bf. What? So I took that as not a rejection at the time. I decided to keep going with her and keep a conversation going. About 30 minutes later I tried to kiss her again and she said she can’t, not now. I got her number but I texted her today and she hasn’t responded. At this point I feel like I wasted an hour. So in the future when I ask the three questions, if the girl has a boyfriend or even a smidgen of a relationship, I should just fucking leave and not waste my time. I mean fuck. This was just stupid that I invested that much effort into it for her to blow me off.

                Saturday sucked but at least I got into a conversation, which shows I’m making progress. I don’t usually have long conversations with girls out. Also I didn’t get blown out really at all this weekend, which is huge for me. My approaches are getting dialed.

Thoughts/SP:

1.       When going for the pull, say something innocuous

2.       Don’t waste time if she has a BF, I could have found a more receptive girl that night if I kept looking. Maybe find a better way to define the line between unresponsive and neutral.

3.       My style has been improving, and that gave me significantly more confidence and better reactions this weekend. I should stick with well-fitting clothing and matching clothing etc.

4.       Remember to address the social awkwardness that comes with cold approach (I know this is weird that I’m just coming to talk to you blah blah). That worked wonders for making a girl more comfortable at first. 

FR: Holly Jolly Santacon

12/6/2014

I went out dressed as Santa Claus tonight. It was a Santacon spectacle. 

Here is what happened:

I approach one girl in a group of 5 girls. Her name was Jen, but that was the last thing I heard from her before I ejected from the set. It was going decently well, but I remember Jen stepping away from me backward while we were talking. I was doing better than I usually do for a first opener… I was trying to use Jeffy’s idea of saying something other than hi to initiate the conversation. Good afternoon worked far better than hi normally does to his credit.

We bullshitted but I can’t remember about what exactly. Her friend to the left of me started interjecting. She pulled my Santa beard on my face then started dancing. It seems like she was maybe doing this as a shit test or just to see what I would do. Jen seemed to ignore me once my attention was on her friend. Then they were both ignoring me so it got awkward and I left. I probably should have stayed in set but it was getting weird. Maybe I should work on not ejecting honestly. I can’t remember what we talk about at all god damn, drinking is not good for remembering gaming.

The next girl I approached walked in front of me at the bar… like she was going to cut me. I asked her if she could buy me a drink since she would get drinks sooner than me anyway. Her friend behind her was really cute and so I asked her what she was dressed as. She said she was a snowman. She didn’t give me her undivided attention, and kept looking between her phone and her friend buying the drinks. I should maybe try to get undivided attention harder if possible in these situations. It seemed like it wasn’t happening with her. I reinitiated when she was fucking with her little hat which was on her head that looked like a birthday cone. I made them laugh about it but again it stalled out. 2 sets are hard, because the friends keep distracting the girl. I need to only do two sets if I have a wing. I just walked away because it wasn’t going anywhere.

The next set I did was outside the venue. There was a really cute girl so I walked up to her and asked her if she would be my Mrs. Claus. She was smiling and seemed receptive. However she was looking at her friend and the friend seemed unhappy with me hitting on the girl. She was eventually said “bye” to me in a pretty rude way. It is kind of shitty that these friends don’t give their homies a chance. I tried to stay and save it for a bit but I don’t really know what to do in that situation. Her friend was just awkwardly trying to get me to leave (I just remembered that I should try Tyler’s attempt at disabling the cock block by offering to buy the friend dinner). My buddies were leaving the set so I just rolled the fuck out with them.

So later I did a set in the next bar we went to. I opened the set by spilling my drink on their feet by accident because someone walked into me (LOL). So that one went fairly well, I talked to her for like twenty minutes, but honestly it ended up going nowhere. We had a sort of ongoing joke about her being santas helper and me being santa but that seemed to be the only topic of the conversation and when I tried to move it forward it didn’t exactly go anywhere. Anyway I had a good revalation from this set. It was that when people call me young, or say I’m too young to be hitting on them (which happens quite a bit) I can reframe this. The way I did it was by saying “you guys aren’t that old, c’mon now!” So this assumes that I am not young, just that they have low self-esteem, and I am boosting their confidence actually. It is a pretty simple frame control adjustment. I will have to use this in the future. The set stalled out and I tried to use social proof to get back in a bit by interacting with my friends, which they walked near. But this didn’t work, because I tried to take a selfie with the girl but she wouldn’t do it when I reengaged. Maybe I should allow more time to take place between sets? I don’t really know but the thing failed so I moved on.

The last set I did was a disaster because I couldn’t hear the girl. But I approached her with a natural friend of mine and learned a bit from watching him. He was very grounded when talking to his girl. He seemed like he was getting somewhere with her when the girl I was trying to talk to pulled his girl away because our conversation was going nowhere. I have to be more relaxed I think, it seems to go well this way.

Thoughts/SP:

1.       1. I just remembered that I should try Tyler’s attempt at disabling the cock block by offering to buy the friend dinner

2.       2. Deflect the young shit test by assuring the girl she isn’t old

3.       3. Be more laid back and unreactive

4.       4. Do more sets

5.       5. Learn how to keep attention better or demand it

6.       6. Stay in set longer/ don’t eject 

FR: Resolve

Logistics: September 24th,25th 2014

Venues: The Fox, The Dark Horse
Girls: Madison, S

               This is going to be a field report of going out on Wednesday night, and day 2ing a girl I picked up on Thursday night. Let’s call her Madison.

               I get home with a buddy and we join the pregame for the concert we were going to. I decided not to drink on this particular night, because I had been drinking for an entire week straight before and the hangover was real. Instead I took some oxy and enjoyed the subtle changes that accompany its musical perception alteration. I resisted pressure to drink and didn’t have a single drink all night. We left the pregame with a crew of 10ish people, and headed to the venue, the Fox in Boulder CO.

               We got there and things were starting off slowly. Fort Knox, Little People's opener, was bad and my friends and I waited in the lobby and chatted. It was cool to see people that I wouldn’t for a while, and the conversations unhitched me into state to some extent.

               We go back into the venue and the opening act was finished. I spotted a cute girl who was my TA for a class I took and I opened telling her I recognized her. I asked who the guy she was standing with was, and she said it was her boyfriend. Can’t really do anything there, so we just had an interesting discussion about life as an EBIO major and our options for employment. Her boyfriend was cool and let us talk without interruption, he turned to his other friends instead. The music started up and our conversation ended. Little People (the DJ) was fucking phenomenal so for the rest of the night until we left I was entranced the music. Seriously go get Little People’s album We Are But Hunks of Wood now. 

                A girl in the crew I came with, S, was talking to me for a bit and we were dancing. This was cool, I felt like I had a chance with her because she hovered around me for some time. We danced but she wouldn’t get physical with me really mostly we were just in each others space, and then she began scurrying around our friends at the venue so I lost interest kind of.

               Then I saw a really sexy girl. Madison was wearing a red dress and dancing in her own way unlike anyone around. It was instantly attractive. She shot down one of the kids I came with trying to dance with her. I said fuck it and gave it a chance, in a way that wasn’t aggressive like the previous kid. I tapped her and told her I thought she was cute. Madison responded that I was cute as well. After that we kind of just danced near each other for a bit. I was kind of unable to dance and get into it though because I was taken aback by being up next to her and seeing how cute she was. I wasn’t really able to focus on the music anymore just on her. Then another girl who came with us, B, ran up and smashed me into Madison and squeezed me from behind. I was in a girl sandwich and getting social proof. I knew this wasn’t what Madison wanted though, as she ran away after. I said fuck it and went after her. I wasn’t about to give up because of B’s aggression. B is about 6’ 4” so she can manipulate smaller people like toy soldiers.

               I walked up to Madison and said “these big girls can’t take no for an answer”. I was asking her to protect me from B and this turned into a conversation about European travel. We were speaking closely into each other’s ears because the music was so loud. I was thinking about what my natural friend told me at this moment, which helped. He said to be different, to say things other guys who were boring wouldn’t. I used this advice to make her laugh and make dumb jokes that were out of the ordinary. Things were going well and I was thinking of trying to bounce her to a dark part of the Fox when B ran up again in a drunken stupor and smashed us together as if we were chess pieces. Again Madison ran away awkwardly and I was getting mad at her this time. I pushed her back and said that I didn’t need help but it was a bit too late and Madison had already run.

               I’m going to talk about this next part to illustrate some of Tyler’s ideas about dismissing negativity. TD from RSD talks about the point that you should dismiss negativity, and not let it influence your frame. I was talking to my buddy about being pissed at B for cock blocking me, and told him that I felt I was getting close to pulling Madison. Some guy behind me said “No you weren’t”. I shrugged and turned around from him. Good thing I dismissed him, because I pulled her later that night. I ran up to her outside the venue, and told her that I was sorry about B, and that she was doing better now I thought.

               I ended up getting her email because she didn’t have a phone, which was fine by me, because I want to pull her by any means necessary. She’s extremely sexy and I am changing my mindset to one of a closer instead of an ambivalent gamer who lets chips fall where they may. Fuck that, I ran after her twice after cock blocks and pulled her email. NEVER GIVE UP if she isn’t directly rejecting you.

               I emailed her all day yesterday when she was at computers, and we ended up meeting up at 1030 at a bar. We talked for a while and Madison was giving me the dilated pupil type of I’m really attracted to you look. I moved her up to the second floor and I told her that she was really attractive and I wanted to kiss her. She told me that she didn’t want to make out with me then, but that she wanted me to know that she found me really attractive. I didn’t need that affirmation, but it was sweet of her to give it. I backed off and waited for another opportunity. This is great though in fact, because she now saw that I'm the type of guy who goes for the kiss, even if I didn't get it instantly. This is useful to remember. It is always better to go for it, because you gain attraction whether or not you get it, and can only lose attraction if you don't go for it. 

               We went back to her house for wine and drank together, talking about our families and passions on her balcony. She was getting more attractive to me throughout the conversation, because her wit is really unmatched by any woman I’ve been with before. She is probably one of the smartest people I have ever met. We ended up making out on the couch for a bit, and I tried to stop the making out to talk more for a bit, but it didn’t really work. I was drawn back into the making out and couldn’t easily stop. I should have stopped it though, to show her that I have restraint and care about her personality as much as her physical appeal. That was all we did, she said she wasn't ready for sex. She kicked me out of her house at 12 because she had an early appointment the next day. I don’t really know if I could have busted through this to sex, I don’t think you always can.

               She told me to email her when I’m back in town to set something up. She suggested that she would come over to my place next time. This was a really fun pick up and I learned a lot from it. 

Thoughts/SP:

1. Not drinking can give you a useful clear head, allowing you to learn from watching much more

2. A setback is a cockblock only if you let it be, otherwise it just becomes a sloppier pickup

3. It is always better to go for a kiss, because you gain attraction whether or not you get it, and can only lose attraction if you don't go for it. 

LR: 8/15/14

               This pickup was one of the ones that are so perfect you feel like you are on fire and didn’t slip up. If this was mortal combat it would have been a flawless victory.

               I met her at a house party. She walked in while I was talking to KingMelons. I immediately looked at her and said we are talking about life stories, tell me yours. She told me where she went to elementary school, then high school, then college. I told her that couldn’t really sum up her whole life. That was a tiny neg. She came in with a male friend, so I was a bit concerned that they were dating at first but that got cleared up. She was an English major and so was KingMelons, and we had a short discussion about their different styles and focuses in their work.

               This began stalling out and I pulled all four of us outside. We crawled out through a window onto the balcony to chat. I went out first, and held her heels as she crawled through. She later told me that she thought this was gentlemanly. We talked outside for a bit. I overheard her male friend tell her that I was into her and that she should go for it. YES! A cool and not jealous male friend who is on my side? I was floored because I had been getting cock blocked at every turn by most friends. This guy is a true g.  I used this opportunity to ask how they knew each other, to get some logistics out of the way. She said they were house mates, and I said oh that’s cool I have roommates as well. Then she teased me about the house mate roommate difference and we laughed about the dumb particulars of these phrases. English majors :P! She said she was going to the bathroom, and I was a bit worried that she was going to leave and go do other shit or something but I stayed put and met her male friend outside. He turned out to be really funny and said that he makes friends by walking up to people and asking point blank if they will be friends now lol. He also was yelling at passersby peoples.

               She came back and popped her head through the window, saying she didn’t really want to come back because it was too cold outside. I realized this was an opportunity for me to isolate. I agreed and leaped back in through the window. I immediately started chatting her up and isolated her in a way in which her friend and my friend couldn’t really join in on the conversation, like we were face to face in a corner. KingMelons left us alone. This caused her male friend to sit on a couch and look at us. I realized this was getting a bit awkward and moved her to a table in another room. So at this point I had been able to move her twice. This was a good sign, she was compliant.

               I isolated her at the table and we talked more about our lives and specifically her intention to study abroad. I gave her a lot of my personal favorite places in Europe and some recommendations of museums etc. Things were progressing well and she was giving me the bambi eyes. I felt like it was so on. The conversation turned to her playing spin the bottle and having no problem with kissing people when she had played the game before. I straight up asked if she wanted to kiss me after this, and she said yes. We made out for about 10 seconds and then I pulled away, it felt kind of mutual actually. I turned the conversation back to talking. This was fucking perfection and I have been loving disengaging sexual progression. I was perfectly able to cycle out of the frame of a seedy pickup and into a regular interaction where mutual interest is established. I honestly think that disengaging from sexual points first is the second largest attraction switch next to pre selection.

               We talked for a bit more, and I got her number. I texted her that night that it was cool to meet her. I had been trying to incorporate Tyler Durden’s idea of not texting anything that it would be awkward to respond to into my text game. At some points it seems like you have to ask something that it would be awkward to respond to, but most of the time it is easily avoidable. I finally got her to agree to go out with me 5 days after we met at the party.

               I have been doing a new thing on dates where I fulfill all of society’s expectations of a man’s role in the dating process. It feels really fun and right to do, and has gotten me laid both times I’ve done it so far. By fulfilling the man’s role I mean being a spontaneous, funny, and romantic guy, who plans everything. When I picked her up I had set up a house to stay in by a lake, and got us food and wines before the date began. We got to the lake and floated a bit outside drinking wine and joking around together. Eventually we were just making out in the floaters so much that it made sense to just go inside. We hung out making out for another hourish before we had sex. There were really no slip ups on my part, it felt like I was just working with all of my pickup machinery wired for success with this girl. All In all we were face to face for about 4 hours before sex. This is pretty god damn fast for me. We proceeded to hang out and hook up for the next four days in a row, and I really like this chick. Unfortunately she is in a different city, so it won’t work out into anything major, maybe just a girl to hang out with when I go back to Boston. She is truly awesome and has one of the best personalities of any girl I’ve ever met. That’s not to mention how cute she is. 

Here's a picture of her: 

FR: Instant Karma

Logistics: August 10th, 2014

Venues: The Beergarden, Press Play

               I had a really good night out at the bars last night, I kind of want to write up a field report about it. So here it goes.

               I went out to a pool party with some friends. It was a good time, we got in the hot tub and swam in the pool etc. Had some drinks over there and hung out with close friends. I knew I would be in a great mood all night because I just finished my undergrad degree. I did a warm up set at the pool party, talking to randos to get in a social frame. It was cool, didn't go anywhere though.

               Then we went out to the bars together. The first bar we went to was press play. We got in there and it was crowded, and filled with some cute girls. Unfortunately the music was awful and I was not drunk enough to dance to it, even though I was significantly wasted by this point. Not as much as the last night I wrote about though, I didn’t actually black out last night. So I did an approach two a 2 set with two blonde girls. One was significantly hotter than the other. I opened the uglier one and began to talk to her. She eventually went to sit on the other side of the cute one and I started up a conversation with her. It was going decently, but she kept being distracted from our conversation, and talking to her friend on the other side of her or asking for drinks etc. I was not keeping her attention as well as I wanted. Then 3 of my guy friends came and sat next to me, and she got up and left. I think they may have came off as a bit aggressive, but I could have done something to keep her around I’m sure. I need to experiment with this. Overall I think I stayed in a flirty frame to often because of my drunkenness, and didn’t transition well enough to other frames of a conversation, making me seem one dimensional/overly needing their frame etc. I need to work on this. My friend and I briefly went to try to girls we vaguely knew on the dance floor/dance with them, but the music was so bad we couldn’t take it.

               We then left and went to another bar called the Beergarden. We got in and I was psyched on approaching more people so I went to the back of the bar, and got in one. Hooking was really easy this particular night, I got no flat out rejections. Then again I didn’t do as many as I should have, but I was splitting my time between game and talking with close friends, so I didn’t feel lot of pressure anyway other than to have fun and not force anything. The set I got in had 2 guys and 3 girls. I told one of the girls with a guy that she looked like Anna Paquin, which went over decently well. I began to talk to the one girl that was alone, when a guy walked in and took her attention away. I didn’t care to much because she wasn’t really that attractive anyway, so I didn’t try to continue talking with them after that. My buddy came up to me and we went to the front side of the bar.

               We noticed a girl who was really cute near the doorway. I said I wanted to talk to her, and he laughed at me. She then began to walk up to us, presumably to get to the other side of the bar, and my buddy said this is your chance talk to her now. I opened up directly and asked her for her name, and she seemed into it. She came up next to me and we got in a good 15 minute conversation, mostly about flirty bullshit I don’t think anything concrete was said beyond her wanting nachos. I should have been more than just flirty again, because she lost interest and said she wanted to find her friends. She was hot so I was upset that I fucked this one up, but I did get her number. I don’t think that’s going to go anywhere though. After this set I didn’t do any more approaches at the Beergarden, I was content to hang with friends.

               My friend and I went out for a cigarette, and we got one from some bored looking girls. They gave it to us and went inside the Catacombs. While outside I saw 2 girls talking, and went up and said hi. My friend and I and the girls got in a fairly vanilla conversation about one girls job working as a dermatologist. It was informative but I didn’t really give a fuck. I was just trying to learn something new or whatever I don’t exactly remember if I had any concrete thoughts besides the will to approach at this point. I was very drunk by now. She eventually said bye and got in a cab or something to go.

               I was walking back to my bike at this point because the bars were closing. I went down the street and saw my friend Peter. He was with three girls, and seemed to be doing well with one of them. I ran up to him cause I hadn’t seen him in a minute and greeted him and his friends enthusiastically. One of them was a cute brunette. I walked up to her and told her my name, she told me hers, and that’s all we said to each other. We just started making out though right there, I was holding her up against a light post, and I have to say it was fucking awesome. Pulling in 25 seconds or less is always an amazing feeling, it feels like real mastery of game when things like that happen to you. I was in state and I just felt that it was very powerfully on with this girl. We made out for a solid 5 minutes or something, and then the other girl there who was her friend fucking cockblocked me pulling her away. I mean she was presumably just standing there awkwardly as I was making out with her the whole time. What can I do about this shit? Female cockblocks will be the death of me. She asked the girl I hooked up with if she was ready to leave and they left together leaving me elated and wanting more at the same time. I don’t know what I can do about this honestly I need to work on my skills and intercept these things. Things go well with a girl and within seconds the female cockblock comes and it’s over. I need to work on my fucking reaction time apparently. Anyway this was the best night I’ve had in a while and it was fun. I really want to concentrate on pickup more now that I’m done with school. I am excited to move in with my wing Flow at some point soon hopefully, to tear shit up with him.

Thoughts/SP:

1. I need to cycle through frames to keep things interesting, staying too flirty or too interviewy is fucking boring and girls lose interest

2. React to the female cockblock, don't be content with this happening.

3. Your opener doesn't mean shit, what's important is sub communications and eye contact. I literally didn't think about any opener before I said it in set I just ran in and things happened naturally.

FR: Autopilot

Logistics: Saturday, May 10th

Venues: The Absinthe House, Press Play

Pivot: Manhattan

Friends: Sweden, Denmark

Girls: HBjoan, HBblonde

Obstacles: Obstacle

               We went out to the Absinthe house. We only walked in there for a second, because it was so dead. I approached a set at the bar. The girls were cool, they had shots to hand out shortly after I approached. The set went pretty well, the girls were receptive until they walked away. I couldn’t get it where I wanted it to go though, so whatever. We just left right after that anyway because it was so dead.

               We went to press play and ran into friends on the way. Sweden came randomly later too, with Denmark and HBjoan. I don’t quite remember how I got into a conversation with HBjoan, but I remember one thing distinctly. Some aspect of sexuality came up, or she said something testing if I was going after her, and I said that I wouldn’t hook up with her or declined casually. After this she was much more interested in me and took my number, and texted me. She then hit me up this morning to go out with her tonight after coffee. I’m not sure if I want to sleep with her but this seems like she’s seducing herself for me or just plain seducing me. It’s pretty cool because this shit never happens to me like this. I usually have to make the first moves. Who knows though maybe she just wants to be friends.

               Moving forward, the night was interesting at Press Play. A friend and I were talking and he pointed out a girl at the bar who was cute. I took this as an opportunity to approach and did so immediately. The 2 set blew open. The conversation went well and as far as I remember we were flirting or something else stupid for most of it. It stalled out though and they went to the dance floor.

               After that a group of Manhattan’s work friends came into the bar, or she knew them somehow, I don’t fucking know how she knew them really. Manhattan found me and told me I could have any of “these three”, and pointed to three out of four of the girls. I started talking to HBblonde then they ran to the dance floor. Our group followed and we started awkwardly dancing around each other to some garbage music. I can’t remember what was playing but I was singing along a bit I think. I was dancing near HBblonde, when her friend told me that HBblonde thought I was cute. I was taken aback a bit. I still didn’t really do anything. Manhattan basically told me to dance with her somehow, It’s fuzzy I can’t remember how. We were grinding and it was really fun, like my high school days. I made out with her on the dance floor a couple times, it was chill and so easy.

               I am really happy with Manhattan for helping get me a girl and swag. Also hooking up with a stranger is kinda hot. I made out with her a couple times outside too, trying to isolate her more. I can’t remember what happened in a lot of places last night, I think I blacked out about half of it or at least details are gone. Alcohol is pretty fucking powerful. Anyway I was trying to take her home, but her friend obstacle was isolating her from me repeatedly for some reason. It was pretty annoying but female cock blocks are something I need to learn how to deal with. This is a failure on my part for getting bullied by obstacle. However I need to learn from this and deal with them better in the future. I think I remember obstacle's exact words, while I was talking to the HBblonde, obstacle ignored me and said “only we are getting in the car right?” the HBblonde nodded. Maybe this is more of a failure on my part to get the girl alone and get real information from her aside from just physical attraction. I need to remember to make real connection with girls and not only assume shit is on, so that I can best deal with the situation. This is why dance floor game is weak, the easy initial part presents the difficulty of isolating from friends and making real connections in comfort.

               With that failure aside, the night was a success for me mentally and I feel as if I automatically was able to open, kiss close, and number close with efficiency. I got into state for the first time in a while. I am bouncing back from my old GF problems and beginning to remember what strong game feels like to possess. 

Thoughts/SP:

1. The female cockblock is rough. I have to make sure to isolate and build a powerful connection to avoid this fate from occuring again.

2. Manhattan is a great pivot, it was truly one of the easiest pick ups I've done because of her cupid like behaviors

3. Drinking a lot can put you into state effectively, but it will also make you lose sight of the future

4. I really enjoyed the ability to let go and have fun without any outcome dependence in state

FR: Flying Solo

Logistics:
Wednesday, 2/26/14

FR:

               I went out alone for the first time yesterday. I could only manage about an hour and a half out. I was feeling lots of pressures that I need to settle from the environment. People are really not as mean as they seem when you’re out alone, and I have to internalize that a bit more. Here’s my recollection.

               I walk into the Walrus and try to get into a set immediately. There weren’t to many people there so I just walked into the first 4 set I saw on my left. I was trying to come into interactions with a frame of just having fun with no attachment to getting laid. I talked to one girl on the left for about 5 minutes about random shit like where she was from and the color purple. Things were stalling out a bit then one of the girls told me she was a lesbian so I got frozen out hard. It was a warm up set though so I didn’t really expect it to go well.

               I then approached two girls in the corner sitting on the couch. We got into a long interesting conversation about Texan culture and guns. They weren’t too attractive though, I just wanted to talk to them to keep a social feeling going. That went on for about 20 minutes, and then they got up and went to get a drink. They basically froze me out that way but I didn’t care too much I was just trying to chill with them for a bit. I went on to the next bar and talked to some random guy for a while, to stay social. The bar there only had mixed sets and I didn’t feel like doing those.

               I left that bar and headed to the Downer, where I approached a couple of girls, one was really attractive in some interesting designs. I discovered that one of them was a designer so that was interesting except they both eventually ran away. I’m having problems keeping sets hooked again; my conversations keep stalling out for some reason. After that I approached two girls at the bar, this was my best set of the night even though it didn’t really go perfectly. I talked to one blonde girl and was joking around with her immediately from after asking what her name was. She seemed funny and we were vibing pretty well at the bar. She and her friend got drinks and then I followed her back to the middle of the bar area where I got her isolated. We got into comfort a bit and I was throwing hoops at her to jump through. She answered all my questions seriously so I knew she was attracted. I was escalating kino and things were going pretty well, it got kind of sexualized. Then her friend came over and whispered something in her ear. Right after she asked for my name, and I told her. Then I couldn’t remember hers. She left after that. So that was disappointing that it stalled out like that but forgetting her name was kind of a mistake. Maybe I lost my state a bit and she saw hesitation when I forgot it, or neediness/ nervousness that she would leave. I think I just have to develop the ability to bring positive emotions from within myself in a stronger way. That could help me with reactivity in these situations.

               After that I did another 2 set in the downer and it was going pretty well, we got into some interesting discussions and I was incorporated into the conversation as if I was their friend seamlessly. It was trippy how easily it opened. After a while though one of the girls said they wanted to go talk to their other friends and left with her.

               I tried to go back to the Walrus after that but the two sets I opened just failed badly. I had been out for only an hour and a half but felt over it, partially because of the lack of people out on a Wednesday. I drove home.

Thoughts/SP:

-        I have to stop relying on women for my emotions so that I can stay in state for longer periods of time

-        Work on not losing hooked sets, maybe I should stick with my strengths in keeping interest, ie: being goofy and making girls laugh

-        Get better at mixed sets

-        Overall going out alone was really interesting and a lot more self-motivated, you have to just hammer away at approaching and sets because there are no wings for you to go join or chode out with.